so upset!!!

[Bree_05_15]

So I just got home from work nd my husband shaved his head I know u all thinking its not that big of a deal it is!  We had a talk couple months back when I got my hair done that I couldnt cut my hair cuz if I cut it even an inch would be to short then I told him I wouldnt as long as hr didnt dhave his head cuz I would hate it! So my best friend s bf comes over they think its funny to shave each others head! So when I get home from work I see him bald ! I just tgibk its childish of him as well as condiscending since he said not to  ivr never been so mad like ive never been so upset ever !!!! Nd hr did this couple days before r wedding anniversary:(

[TTinKKerBBell]

I totally agree with SpecialMom in that I don't think this is about hair - hair
D O E S grow back - Rather it's about control and respect. You "can't" cut Your hair even one inch AND You "can't" tell Him how to wear His??!!  This isn't about 'hair'.

[Londres70]

I can tell you there are alot of things my husband does in regards to his grooming and clothes, but I see it this way..... it's his body, face, etc.  He does the same with me.  We just don't tell each other what to do in regards to these matters.  We do express what we prefer to each other, but neither is going to get upset or mad because the other decides to do something that's not preferred.  

In a marriage or relationship battles should be chosen wisely.  

Apparently there are some other underlying issues going on here that are manifesting into these cutting arguments and it's got really nothing to do with "hair or hair cuts."  

[specialmom]

Hm.  I think that when a partner tells the other that they can't cut an inch off their hair and they are that controlling of us, that's a problem.  Same with shaving his head.  these are important yet petty things.  It's not the hair but rather the issue of trying to control each other.  It's not that he is bald (even if you don't care for the look) but that you feel you had an agreement and he went back on it.  

Honestly, the problem is much deeper than the surface situation.  That worries me.  

Pick your battles.  Say nothing about his hair.  If he tries to tell you what to do with yours, tell him that you want him to be attracted to you but hey, it's YOUR hair and you'll do what you think looks good.  set the boundary right now with him.  

But look for a pattern of fighting about little things is covering a deeper problem so you can solve that.  That you feel disrespected by him is the real problem.  good luck

[Bree_05_15]

Ive come to the conclusion hes been acting very childish nd ya ur right guus do tend to act this way sometimes I talked to him he was all upset nd at the end he understood he was like maybe ull let me do it again I was like really? Wow I think I got the point across I told him didnt look good doesnt mean I dont think hes un actractive just didnt like the bald look..ya I know but for my sons sakd im trying to make it work I love him so much just seems to not be so sensitive bout how I feel like u said he cares he just thinks he doesn't do any thing wrong

[Chima7]

If the shaved head was the only thing he'd ever done, i'd say it's not worth fighting about. However, based on your previous posts, it looks like your husband has quite the long history of being really insensitive to you and your feelings. He seems to not care at all about how you feel about anything ever. I don't know how you can stand being married to someone like that. You might want to consider why you chose a guy like this who cares so little for your feelings about pretty much everything. I think you should love yourself more and realize that you deserve way better than someone like him.

[macey111]

You know I can understand where your coming from. I also dont like my partner bald. He knows it too. Hes shaved his head several times. I honestly dislike it very much. Since I got my point across as to how unattractive he is to me with no hair he stopped shaving it. I agree it is childish..then again men sometimes tend to be childish at times. Maybe if you talked to him and let him know your real feelings bout it. Maybe he'll listen.:)