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Am I too attached?
I think I may be too attached to my boyfriend. I know I miss him always, but today I'm realizing that I think I may be too attached to him. Ok so he hurt his foot a while back ago and didn't let it really heal, so on Sunday [July 22] he hurt it again. So he didn't go to work on Monday and he was off yesterday and today and he wont be at work tomorrow either. So I haven't seen him since Sunday night. Monday night didn't bother me because I never see him on Monday's because of work. I didn't see him last night either because he was in too much pain and I told him not to come see me. And now tonight I wont see him again, because I'm the one telling him he needs to rest so he can getting better. I now find myself crying at work because I can't see him tonight and I probably wont see him until Saturday. He knows I'm crying, he knows I'm sad and that I need to see him, so he tells me he will come see me tonight. But I tell him no, because he has to get better that he is more important don't worry about me. But deep down inside I need to see him. I get this lonely depressed feeling where the only thing that will make me better is if I see my boyfriend, even if I only see him for 10 mins. Tonight I know when we talk on the phone I know 100% sure I will cry because I miss him too much.
I know that couples don't have to see each other everyday, I know that. But it's just that we are SO close in our relationship I get weird feeling if I can't be with him. It was a major adjustment in our relationship when he started having to work Saturday's because we would be with each other every Saturday from 10am-12am next morning. I still feel weird not being able to see him on Saturday until he gets out of work at 11pm but its getting better.
My mom says time apart in any relationship is healthy, I know that. But being as close as we are, it feels weird being away from him. We have been together now just a little over 5 months and since we started dating we have talked EVERY single day. There hasen't been a day yet that we haven't talked. In the mornings when I'm at work he messages me on my cellphone and we talk until he goes to work at 2pm. Then throughout the day we will text each other until I go home from work at 5pm. I go home, and then when he has a break at work he calls me and we spend sometimes an hour on the phone, and then we talk again like an hour later. He tells me everyday like 100 times a day that he loves me, and I do the samething. To me this feels right. Being away from him, I can't handle it. I mean the week of July 4th this year he practiclly lived with me because my family was on vacation and I didn't go. We acted as if we were married we still act as though were married. I had to do chores around the house to keep it neat and he helped me! He helped me with the laundry, making the beds everything even food shopping.
How can I get myself to not be so attached to him? I know I will always be attached, but I don't want to be at the point where I'm crying on the phone with him needing him to be with me, which I have done already. Help!!!
Niki
I know that couples don't have to see each other everyday, I know that. But it's just that we are SO close in our relationship I get weird feeling if I can't be with him. It was a major adjustment in our relationship when he started having to work Saturday's because we would be with each other every Saturday from 10am-12am next morning. I still feel weird not being able to see him on Saturday until he gets out of work at 11pm but its getting better.
My mom says time apart in any relationship is healthy, I know that. But being as close as we are, it feels weird being away from him. We have been together now just a little over 5 months and since we started dating we have talked EVERY single day. There hasen't been a day yet that we haven't talked. In the mornings when I'm at work he messages me on my cellphone and we talk until he goes to work at 2pm. Then throughout the day we will text each other until I go home from work at 5pm. I go home, and then when he has a break at work he calls me and we spend sometimes an hour on the phone, and then we talk again like an hour later. He tells me everyday like 100 times a day that he loves me, and I do the samething. To me this feels right. Being away from him, I can't handle it. I mean the week of July 4th this year he practiclly lived with me because my family was on vacation and I didn't go. We acted as if we were married we still act as though were married. I had to do chores around the house to keep it neat and he helped me! He helped me with the laundry, making the beds everything even food shopping.
How can I get myself to not be so attached to him? I know I will always be attached, but I don't want to be at the point where I'm crying on the phone with him needing him to be with me, which I have done already. Help!!!
Niki
talk about clingy!! whoa. you need to give your bf some space... even reading your post was overwhelming. i know that you're in love and the relationship is still new, but it sounds too me that you are way too attached. you were falling apart when you couldn't see him, those are not good signs.
I'm just saying, the wild happiness ride will end eventually. No one can sustain that.
bip:
Yeah I am doing better, I think what happened was that I went "cold turkey" without seeing him for 1 week. As I have said I am so totally not good with change, it takes me a lil while to feel ok about a change. But I guess it is different when your married for a long time, I guess you get tired of one another sometimes...lol
I'll be like that for sure in the future I bet! lol
Anyways, things are normal again. I get to see my boyfriend tonight and tomorrow. Tonight we are seeing The Simpson's movie...WOOO!!!!!!! And tomorrow he is coming to my house for my mom's birthday. So yay!
And yes keep me posted on your results. I sure hope you feel better soon.
peekawho:
Yes I'm happy again, but I guess that was meant to be scarstic. Oh wells...
Yeah I am doing better, I think what happened was that I went "cold turkey" without seeing him for 1 week. As I have said I am so totally not good with change, it takes me a lil while to feel ok about a change. But I guess it is different when your married for a long time, I guess you get tired of one another sometimes...lol
I'll be like that for sure in the future I bet! lol
Anyways, things are normal again. I get to see my boyfriend tonight and tomorrow. Tonight we are seeing The Simpson's movie...WOOO!!!!!!! And tomorrow he is coming to my house for my mom's birthday. So yay!
And yes keep me posted on your results. I sure hope you feel better soon.
peekawho:
Yes I'm happy again, but I guess that was meant to be scarstic. Oh wells...
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