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Are there any men that aren't ******
I found a guy that I liked a lot and we hit it off well but I have come to find out he is man *****. I found him advertising his junk on Craigslist to get laid and it hurts because I liked him and considered him a guy I wanted to date. We hung out a few times the last ending up bad....Everyone says he is bad news and to stay away. I know to stay away but it hurts when someone you like is an *** to you as well as themselves without showing any respect. I just really wonder are there any decent men around.....
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My hpv is at a low to mild state according to my gynecologist after my last colposcopy at the end of last month. My dr says that hpv clears itself up on its own. I honestly hope it does. I still have a large majority of my cervix left (85%) I just want to have a baby sucessfully without any probs.
I have come to the realization that everyone is not a good person and people just put on a persona to appear that way. Regardless of if a man is attractive or not, if he does not have any morals about himself then I can't have anything to do with him.
Men,women,the majority are decent and caring but then there are those who are just bad eggs and there were two women on here not to long ago,both married and with young children flirting with any man they could find because they weren't happy in their own relationships,it goes both ways.Mr right will come along and you will know it when it happens.All the best.
I finished all my perquisites for nursing school already and I was in nursing school for over a year and a half completing clinical. Last semester when I withdrew I was in my clinical residency part of my program. So yes RockRose, I would only have one semester left.
Nursing programs and requirements can be so different from school to school/facility to facility. Also, it will depend on the degree you are trying to obtain as well, i.e. Associate's or higher. I am not sure if diploma programs still exist in the USA. Also, what type of nurse you would like to be, i.e. LPN or RN. So many factors are involved that will determine what you have to do and how long you have to do it. Then, you have to go for your license because without that you can't practice Nursing. There is alot involved.
Nothing wrong with wanting a man, but the timing is definitely not good now especially with your health issues. HPV is not an easy diagnosis to deal with, but I believe your prognosis will be good in the end.
Focus should definitely be on your health and finishing school especially since you have a semester left. Getting a job with a Nursing degree shouln't be difficult. You might not get exactly what you want, but you will find a job. The Nursing shortage is getting worse and that is globally.
Just have to place a man on the "back burner" for now NOT forever.
Focus should definitely be on your health and finishing school especially since you have a semester left. Getting a job with a Nursing degree shouln't be difficult. You might not get exactly what you want, but you will find a job. The Nursing shortage is getting worse and that is globally.
Just have to place a man on the "back burner" for now NOT forever.
I didn't take what you said as being bitchy, and I hope you also didn't take what I said that way.
What I said still stands. Everything in life is a choice - and often, people don't see all their options as a choice, they think certain things are compulsory.
It sounds like you don't have a semester of nursing school left, you have a year left. I have a son who graduated nursing school in May, and if you want to work in a hospital, you have a year left, and THEN you have to apply for an internship which is three months long. All that's fine, it's totally your choice, but realize what you're facing.
There used to be a fallacy that "you can have it all". You can't have it all. You can't delay motherhood indefinitely, because fertility is fleeting. You have to pick and choose what you want to have, and your choices exclude other options.
I'm only saying this because often young women don't fully understand the timeline, and then some options are over before they thought that would happen.
Best wishes.
What I said still stands. Everything in life is a choice - and often, people don't see all their options as a choice, they think certain things are compulsory.
It sounds like you don't have a semester of nursing school left, you have a year left. I have a son who graduated nursing school in May, and if you want to work in a hospital, you have a year left, and THEN you have to apply for an internship which is three months long. All that's fine, it's totally your choice, but realize what you're facing.
There used to be a fallacy that "you can have it all". You can't have it all. You can't delay motherhood indefinitely, because fertility is fleeting. You have to pick and choose what you want to have, and your choices exclude other options.
I'm only saying this because often young women don't fully understand the timeline, and then some options are over before they thought that would happen.
Best wishes.
I know what I want. I want to finish my nursing degree because I only have one semester left. I use to work in banking but lost my job during the recession in 2008 so I decided to go back to school for nursing and did. While in nursing school my aunt had a heart attack and stroke so I withdrew from school to come home and help my family and be with my aunt while she was in the hospital. So until I can go back to school in the fall (september), I need a job to help take care of myself - medical bills, etc. I want a husband and a child, I just need to not rush things because of my health. Because of my health and age I want it sooner than later which may be to my detriment currently. Hopefully, I clarified everything now RockRose that you were unsure about. Hopefully, you are not taking what I said as being bitchy.
Artemis, you don't actually have to "get over" what you want. You can work smarter to get what you want, or you can decide you actually DON'T want that and focus again as you have done all your life -focus on you, school, and a job.
These are all choices, and it's your life. If you don't want a husband and children, it's perfectly fine for you to continue to focus on your career and school at the same time.
Having the degrees that you have, and then going in a different direction that requires more schooling is your choice. I just think you need to think very hard about what it is you want, and go in that direction.
It's kind of hard to tell reading your posts.
Best wishes.
These are all choices, and it's your life. If you don't want a husband and children, it's perfectly fine for you to continue to focus on your career and school at the same time.
Having the degrees that you have, and then going in a different direction that requires more schooling is your choice. I just think you need to think very hard about what it is you want, and go in that direction.
It's kind of hard to tell reading your posts.
Best wishes.
Yes you are correct that because people seem nice and decent does not mean they are. I have deleted his pictures and emails from my iPhone. I do deserve better and do not need to settle for just anyone. I need to battle my demon of health right now....I am somewhat scared of maybe not having children. My gynecologist is working with me to clear everything up and my dr knows I want kids. I just need to get over what I want which is a man, relationship, and baby and focus on school, a job, and me.
I would say you have alot going on dear as a diagnosis of HPV and issues with your cervix is heavy one.
Sort yourself out and focus on yourself for now; take care of you.
Sometimes in life things don't come when we want them, but when we need them the most.
Don't make "hasty" decisions based on wants. Take you time and think things thoroughly through.
Sort yourself out and focus on yourself for now; take care of you.
Sometimes in life things don't come when we want them, but when we need them the most.
Don't make "hasty" decisions based on wants. Take you time and think things thoroughly through.
Dear, after what you told us about the man and Craigslist hasn't it registered with you? Just because someone "seems" decent doesn't mean he/she is and it is apparent he isn't if he is on Craigslist trying to peddle himself. I am not sure why his number is not deleted. Delete it and move on dear; cut your loses. Don't you think you deserve better or are you afraid you won't find someone else?
I have liked alot of guys throughout my life, however, in the end like doesn't make someone the best option for you. Know what I mean?
You must have some great friends because they seemed to have helped you to see these two men aren't great picks.
Trust me, you will need ALL your energies finishing Nursing school as you know it isn't easy. Perhaps you will meet some great classmates and hang out with them when you all have some time to unwind. At least, you know they will be decent. Through their contact, you might be able to meet someone, but that's for later.
Getting back into "you" and sorting yourself out is most important now.
I have liked alot of guys throughout my life, however, in the end like doesn't make someone the best option for you. Know what I mean?
You must have some great friends because they seemed to have helped you to see these two men aren't great picks.
Trust me, you will need ALL your energies finishing Nursing school as you know it isn't easy. Perhaps you will meet some great classmates and hang out with them when you all have some time to unwind. At least, you know they will be decent. Through their contact, you might be able to meet someone, but that's for later.
Getting back into "you" and sorting yourself out is most important now.
Thanks ladies for all the info and words of encouragement. Right now I just need to get my life in order and take care of me. I am getting to the point as Specialmom said of just wanting what I want now. I just turned 29 this past Friday and I am having problems with my cervix and hpv among other things and I guess I want to settle down now and have at least 1 child before things get worse if they do. But I have to realize our lord and savior will make a way for me in due time. I do know maybe meeting strangers is not the right thing to do maybe I do need to start meeting friends of friends when my life is in order.
I need to finish nursing school because I only have a semester left. I need to delete his contact info out of my phone but it's so hard to do because I liked him and he seemed like a gentleman. But everyone is not as they seem.
I can identify with needing a break from the family situation and all. That is commendable that you did that for your aunt. Unfortunately, this situation with this man happened. I will give you kudos for getting out of the situation as soon as you found out about him.
There are so many people nowadays involved in the "unthinkable." You just have to be extra cautious and conscious about who you are dealing with even if it is just a "casual" hangout. Hey, nothing wrong with doing a "check" on the person in my opinion.
Get back into "you" and get sorted. All the best with Nursing school; BTW: I am a nurse.
There are so many people nowadays involved in the "unthinkable." You just have to be extra cautious and conscious about who you are dealing with even if it is just a "casual" hangout. Hey, nothing wrong with doing a "check" on the person in my opinion.
Get back into "you" and get sorted. All the best with Nursing school; BTW: I am a nurse.
I do have to figure out my life before I worry about anything else. I had my life in order then my aunt had a heart attack and stroke so I left school to go home and help. Now that my family seems to be doing better I need to move on with me. I wanted a break from my family and them driving me crazy with their wants and needs that it was nice to hang out with a guy that seemed nice until it went bad 2 weeks ago. But I no deserve someone that has respect for themselves as well as me. Especially not someone posting ads looking for sex online.
Well, just keep all these unfortunate situations in mind for future reference. Background checks are so easy to do nowadays. You live and learn; the important part is that you learn and do better.
It will come for you maybe not when you want it, but it will come.
There are good men out there.
It will come for you maybe not when you want it, but it will come.
There are good men out there.
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Oh, I see. Hey, I think you sound like a smart and resonable lady. Just take some time to sort out who you are and where life is going. Look for things to do that might offer the chance to meet someone and do them---- without any pressure on yourself.
I married in my mid 30's and have 2 kids----- so don't feel like if it hasn't happened in your 20's that time is running out. Better to meet the right guy who will be a great partner than to settle for anything less.
good luck dear
I married in my mid 30's and have 2 kids----- so don't feel like if it hasn't happened in your 20's that time is running out. Better to meet the right guy who will be a great partner than to settle for anything less.
good luck dear
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I met my husband also when I wasn't 'looking'. Our paths crossed at a function we were both at with friends just enjoying ourselves.
I agree with Londres last post. good luck
I agree with Londres last post. good luck
I really don't like online dating at all. That is why I have not done it in 3 years. I was trying to answer Londres70 question about not knowing my ex fiancée had a rap sheet. That is why I was engaged once and that relationship ended in January 2007.
At this point, with all you got going on I would figure out "you" first (school, work, etc.) and the rest will fall into place.
Don't get discourage over this; I am sure it will happen eventually, but you need to be more conscious and selective about who you date.
You definitely need to sort out why you are choosing these types of men. I wouldn't recommend getting involved with anyone else until you do that.
Don't rush this and don't settle. I wasn't thinking about any man when I met my husband. In fact, I was enjoying a cup of coffee in my favorite cafe when I met him.
Don't get discourage over this; I am sure it will happen eventually, but you need to be more conscious and selective about who you date.
You definitely need to sort out why you are choosing these types of men. I wouldn't recommend getting involved with anyone else until you do that.
Don't rush this and don't settle. I wasn't thinking about any man when I met my husband. In fact, I was enjoying a cup of coffee in my favorite cafe when I met him.
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Okay, I'm just going to say it again, I'd do some live meeting of folks that share mutual interests with you. I think online dating can be a valuable resource and know of those who met their partner there---- but something about the way you write makes me think you need to change the way you do things. Online dating hasn't worked for you.
Consider the other options available to you. Date lots of different types.
good luck
Consider the other options available to you. Date lots of different types.
good luck
I have not been engaged for a long time. I met my ex fiancée on yahoo personals which became match.com back in 2005. I did not know he had a past until a friend told me to look him up on the Wisconsin court system site because he would accuse me of cheating on him when I was at work, school, etc. So I found out he killed cats by breaking their necks, jumped bail multiple times, failed to pay child support, tried to kill his ex fiancée, stole from people etc. he was bad news so we did not stay together after I found out. But I did not run a background check on him when we first went out or anything. He had a good job, had a car, and his own place. His accusatory attitude we engaged caused me to investigate him.
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check into a book club to join. Libraries and book stores often have them.
I got season tickets to a local team a few years----- it was great because I could take a girlfriend and mingle with men or I could call a male i was interested in and tell him I had these tickets, would he like to go? Sometimes you can split a ticket package with someone---- you go to half the games, they go to the other half. We do that for our city's football team with 3 other families. We each get a few games.
Look around for opportunities to join something that relate to what you are interested in.
And maybe write down those you have dated, had crushes on,, etc. and write about each person things good and bad. See if when reading back through if you notice any pattern.
Dating a variety of 'types' is helpful I think. good luck