What a hard lesson to learn and you should have thought of that before making such a commitment with your wife. The ball is now in her court and she has control of the only person she can control...herself. Once trust has been broken, it will never be the same, but if you continue to seek her forgiveness and prove yourself to be worthy, it is possible for reconciliation. Ask her if she would be willing to accompany you to a marriage councelor and if she says, no, then tell her you will seek the help, to show her you are willing to do whatever it takes to get her back. I do wish you the best of luck.
That's very giving of you, J, to post your story as a warning.
got to give it too you,your honesty is worth alot lets just hope others reads this and thinks twice before acting on their impulses because as you said the grass isnt always greener on the other side,and before you know it you turn around and everything you thought you wanted isnt so good after all and then everything that you did have has moved on.