what do you think

[nextsteps101]

Hi everyone. I have a question - my partner has been cheating on me and another woman for 3 years as we didnt know the other existed. I was not happy and when I found out he chose the other lady (she asked to meet me for a chat before choosing to forgive him). He has however continued to remain in contact with me and we chat every other day and have met up 3 times for dinner/drinks and each time ended up hugging and kissing. His behaviour has made me decide that I dont want to be with him anymore (he tells her he is doing all he can to make it work, loves her etc) but as I can see this happening again I think she deserves to know what is going on. I know, he knows and she is giving it everything to make it work with him. I dont want revenge nor a relationship with him but I am now feeling a bit bad.

[MrS_L0PeZ]

Hi Judy! Thank you 4 everything!! I Love hearing the advice you give ppl. You always give good advice and I'm glad that Your My Friend!! Hugs

[Judy246]

Hi sweety, thanks for everything and as usual great advise....Hugs, Judy

[peaceinknowing]

I agree with the majority of the posts here when they tell you to just let things be -- you have to try and keep in mind that everything done in the dark will [always] eventually come to light. I can promise you, that this will be one of those things the other woman will eventually find out later on down the road, if not sooner.

[MrS_L0PeZ]

I wouldn't tell her anyting, just leave it alone. It'll end up making you look like the bitter one that wants revenge, even though your intentions are to try to help her. She will realize what type of person he really is. I'm glad that you had the courage to walk away from him. Hes not worth your time. You will find a Man who wants to be with you and only you!!! Good Luck

[Judy246]

I applaud your courage and I know it's not easy to walk away, but he is still being dishonest with you both. I would leave it alone, because  if you approach her, it's just going to drag out lots of drama and it might look like you still love him enought to try to break them up and she will possibly get even closer to the jerk. The truth always comes out and it will be a matter of time where his dishonesty will be exposed and she will realize what type of person he really is. You did good in leaving him.

[jenkaye21]

If you are "feeling a bit bad", then stop seeing him!! Seriously, I would just cut him out completely and then there is nothing to feel bad about.  Move on.  Let it go.  

[mami1323]

Oh, I'm sorry, there have been so many similar stories to yours lately that I thought you had posted before.  I hope you got some answers that might have been helpful.

[nextsteps101]

Hi - I havent posted before and I never thought that I would be one to post on these type of pages but I came across it by accident and thought there would be no harm in asking the quetion. I didnt think that anyone would reply!

[jo929]

I believe that your intentions are meant to help, buy i have seen what sometimes happens to the bearer of bad news, they turn on the messenger, if you are ok with everything just walk away, as she may just get upset with you and then you will have an enemy who will just think that you are jelous, it will not take her long to find out the kind of guy he is  luck  jo

[mami1323]

Yikes....I think I remember you posting before.  I'm glad you have decided to walk away from him.  I can guarantee you he will play both of you women the same way if you had chosen to stay.  I do think that she deserves to know the truth, however, I'm sure he has a way of convincing her to stay.  I'm sure he will tell her that you are lying or you are the one after him, or you are bitter because he chose her and now you are trying to break them up.  Do you have saved messages from him so that you can show her evidence?  After that, if she choses to stay with him and make it work, you need to let it go and walk away.  You can only do so much or say so much to someone, she will have to make that decision on her own.  You will have been the lucky one here and you now have an opportunity to find a man who will not share his time.  Good luck.