Cheating

[babe4chevy]

Have you ever cheated or been cheated on?
I'm not judging I just want to see the ratio to help me with a decision I've made. (No I didn't cheat.)

[specialmom]

We have a lot of people that post here that have been cheated on or cheated and have worked through it (or are doing so).  It is hard work but it can bring a new understanding to a relationship and may even make for a more solid partnership down the road.  Knowing what you can lose is powerful.  good luck

[babe4chevy]

Of course, it is actually very nice to be able to share my story since I kind of hide it from everyone that knows us because I don't want them to judge him since I want to be with him the rest of my life! The worst is that it happened with 2 different women both were ex's! 1 he only slept with 1 time the other he slept with so many times he can't count. That one was the one I suspected & questioned him about. Him coming forward did jump start my healing process since I could tell it ate him up inside. I know that I have his heart I even saw emails back & forth between them where she would ask him to leave me & he told her that I was the best thing to happen to him & he would never leave me that she may be fun but I was his soulmate that made a true impact on my decision to stay!

[babe4chevy]

I completely agree staying was the hardest decision I have ever made but since we were so young starting out & have grown & matured so much since it happened I am "playing the fool" & giving it another go. I always said I would never stay with a man who would cheat & that I only give one chance but for some reason I guess love has changed my mind & made me soft. I have always been nothing but good to him I give him everything he has ever wanted asked for & more he never has wish for anything he knows he will get it I wait on him hand & foot I love to spoil him rotten. That confession cut me to my soul but he cut both the women out his life & lets me see his phone I have all his passwords & we hide NOTHING anymore if he so much as buys a drink at Wendy's I know about it! He erased their numbers, pictures, & blocked them on social networks. He has made a true 180 & I am actually very proud in a way I feel like maybe we will actually make it through! <3

[specialmom]

thank  you for sharing your story,  it is a double betrayel when they do it is our own "space".  That is terrible and I'm sure hurt you very much.  Sorry that happened.

I agree that cheating is never excusable.  Some couples do move past it but it can only happen when the one who cheated takes full responsibility and works to make it up to the partner they betrayed.  And it is understandable when one decides it isn't even worth the effort to try to forgibe someone for this.

Infidelity hurts.  No two ways about it.  

[aheart]

  I was cheated on by my son's father, in our house, in my bed. The pain was indescribable and I divorced him over it. In my opinion cheating is wrong because it is built with deceit and lies, breaks the wedding vows and someone usually ends up hurt. It hurt me especially because I was so good to my husband, never turned my back to him when he needed me, always looked good, etc it really doesn't matter now but when some men decide to cheat I don't think they are thinking about the repercussions You know the old "thinking with the wrong head thing) This is just my opinion, I would never speak for someones elses circumstances. Good topic!

[babe4chevy]

Thank you! I have always said the same thing & yet now that it has happened I love him so much we have been together over 2 years & he confessed & said he wanted to spend his life with me & I feel the same way so it's like why leave the guy who has your heart over his mistake when he may be the one made for you. We have no kids together but we have been through a lot more than most people go through in 2 years time. I really appreciate your words of encouragement!