Did I make a mistake?

[Artemis04]

Well I have been seeing a guy for a month and the other night we decide to take the next step. We discussed it before hand just incase we were to have sex, we were not meaning for it to happen but it did. I have not had intercourse in over a year and him about 6 months. Well I told him I was rusty-cobwebs and all - lol. Well I am a little self conscious about my body (average size 12-14) but it did not bother him in my opinion. Well he we had relations and said goodnite and that we would speak to each other on Friday. He told me during relations that I look like I was tired - well I was riding him cowgirl and was getting tired 20-30 minutes into it. When we first began talking, he would call and text me all day (50 times)everyday, now that we have had sex, I have not heard from him in two days. I sent him 4 text in that time stating to him that I was sorry if I did anything wrong. That I like him alot and want him in my life. My best friend gave me some girl advice and told me to give him time to himself. I hope bad sex did not run him off or my body self-consciousness. Maybe he is giving me time to focus on my studies since I am a premed student(have midterms this beginning next week) and his is a manager at a retail store. I just to not want to lose him over a bad night of sex. When we first began to talk he said that he likes me for me and that I am his baby....I hope I have not lost him and he is just busy with work or giving me time to get through midterms.

[Artemis04]

Well I am african american, so I am not going to look like a white girl naked. Yea he stumped me when he said that the sex was good and awkward. He said it was like "ummm....trying a new food that you never had before and being like it is good, but do I want to taste it again...maybe, maybe not." I am the first minority he has ever dated so that is why the weird statements. The stated to me that he was busy with work and needed time to think as well before he contacted me. He said he did not forget about me, he was just busy and needed time to regroup.

[Artemis04]

Well I am the first minority period he has dated. His family is from a small town so while I might feel insulted I do understand his situation. I know I should not be making excuses for him, but I know where he is coming from. We have a good time together which is what I love. We honestly can sit and talk for hours on end, like today we talked for 6 hours via text. We have the same interests/hobbies/likes/dislikes so kinda complement each other. Tomorrow or maybe later this week I will address the racial comments he made. But I have to be objective when I do so, because I don't think he mean it to sound like it did, putting his foot in his mouth. I will take one day at a time and maybe I will grow on him or maybe not, but time will tell. I like him as a person so that is enough for me to be his friend and go from there. I may sound like an idiot...but I like talking and spending time with him, so I am gonna take a chance on him.

[heatherlynn22]

how can you not look like a white girl naked??? is he an expert on nipples? what a creep. i don't think sex can be good and ackward. that's.....just ...i dunno. that's the oddest thing i've ever heard a man say. did he explain why it took so long for him to text you? and WHY didn't he call???

MEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[iam1butterfly]

Don't you find it odd and, maybe, a little insulting when he comments about the racial distinctions? I doubt that the sex was awkward; I think that it is he who is awkward. Are you sure that you want a friendship with him?

[Artemis04]

Guess what, he text me today heatherlynn22. He said that that the sex was good and I got his balls off but it was awkward - because I do not look like a white girl naked (e.g., nipples). He said that we can date but does not know about being intimate again, because it was not sex with a white girl. I do not know if his family or friends are influencing him, but I am confused and that is what I stated to him. How can sex be good and be awkward is what I asked him, he could not answer me. Well I will give him more time to think so he can realize what he said to me. Hell I told him he sounded stupid after what he said to me, how can sex be good but awkward. That is some ****. Well I am treading lightly with him. Atleast giving him time allowed him to open up to me.

[heatherlynn22]

good i'm glad you're not going to put up with the ****. there's a man out there looking for you. as my mom always told me let them find you, when you stop looking is when they land in your lap.