I agree with specialmom, but want to add some more input here too. First, if you are only having sex once in while, like a one night stand or so fourth, then I think you might be getting to excitably. If you do find the right one, and start to have sex more often, I do believe that this pr-ejaculation will stop. I have known some men way, way in my past who did this, but after having sex on a regular basis stopped that. I also agree that it could be mental and thinking to much about it before hand could be a problem. I also believe that most women are looking for Mr Right for how he is inside and not so much about sex..However, sure there are Tons of sexual relationships with no communication. I have been married for a lil over 32yrs now, and if it came down to more sex & less friendship, then I would rather have my best friend. However, once again, could I have said that at 20..lol It takes years to build up such a tight relationship. It takes work!! I guess I am just trying to say, that if a women really loves you, the both of you could work this out. There are many ways to plz a women.
Take a couple who are strong Christians and will not have sex before marriage, do you think they would break up because of this sexual so called problem? I think they would seek help together or learn to live with it. You can still get a women pregnant.
I wish you all the best and we are here for you. You are talking to a couple of Ladies so far..lol
Vickie
Hi, welcome. Well, you also avoided std's, unplanned pregnancy worries and heart ache by thinking unattached sex is easy emotionally. :>) There's pluses and minuses to everything.
I wasn't sure what you were saying about the penis issue. You are small or you ejaculate quickly? If it is ejaculation quickly, this will not impede having children. And that is mental often. You get overexcited. Letting your mind drift to other things is supposed to help. How's that for sexy? During sex you think about things like cleaning the sock drawer. But this trains you to hold out longer and longer. But what are you talking about -- being accepted as a man without a penis? You don't have a penis? Trying to understand what you feel the problem is.
As to your youth, you are still young. 26 is not exactly over the hill. Casual sex is something people do but check out the std and hiv forum for all the anxiety that goes with it. You may do well to have a meaningful relationship with a woman you love and who loves you. Not sure. But if you are a likeable person, you can have casual sex. Women don't see your penis and then invite you for sex usually in the casual dating arena. You get intimate for the first time, have sex and if it stinks, they don't take your call for next time but you don't care because you were in it for casual sex. On to the next girl. Sounds a bit empty to me but to each their own! good luck