Falling or fell out of love ?

[ashley911]

hello everyone ..ive been in a relationship with my bf since feb 2007 and i feel like i want to let lose and not just beause im going to school but because i feel like weve lost the love...im gonna start with the incidents that i think led me out of love...at 8 months he said he was going to a dinner party with his friends and i asked him if i could come..turned out he lied and went with my old best friend...than in may i cant remember if it was before or after it was a holiday and he said he wanted to chill with his ace girl and of course i told him no because i knew she liked him...than the old best friend started working at my job talking bout she got a new man..turns out she talking bout mine..so she calls him at the job and tells her to tell me the truth that he likes her and he says yes...i was so heartbroken...than after that he was tlaking to this gurl on the fone and in front of me i was really jealous and i knew something was up and i asked him and he said no....and than december 2009 he told me that he cheated ..with the gitl he took to dinner my old best friend twice and with the gurl who was on the phone twice ...i told him i forgave him but i dont think i fully have because it all keeps coming back.....can anyone help me?

[sweetpea03]

I would delete his number out of your phone, which can help you to not call or text him back. You don't want to be used as his second choice, and keep that in your head to remind yourself as to why to NOT be with him. You are better off without him. :)

[teko]

This is all normal part of the game. It is now a challenge to get you back. Then he wins control. Turn your phone off.

[ashley911]

Thanks

[Gotmoxy]

He's using you. When you're no longer at his beck and call, he needs to reel you back in. He enjoys having you on a back burner, for when HE needs you. You are not a priority to him. He's probably calling and texting you because you have drifted away from him, right? Of course that's what he's going to do. He doesn't care for you. He just cares about the things you can do for him. It's time to tell him that you have grown up and matured, and are through with playing with little boys. Tell him to stop trying to contact you, because you are not changing your mind.

[ashley911]

Hey guys ..this morning his called me 4 times and txted me twice I really need the strength to get through this

[ashley911]

Thanks so much and yea I'm going off to college in 17 days

[PassionFlower09]

You should leave this guy. He is clearly not as invested in this relationship as you are.

School will be a miraculous place: there are so many NEW, QUALITY people who you will meet and who will appreciate and want to be around you  and who will truly care about you. This "boyfriend and Best friend" are not friends. Leave them behind, and enter into the new world that awaits you.

Yes I know I sound cliche and hokie, but it is true. When you go off to University or College, it is a whole new world with new people and new positive experiences. This world is bigger than your High school or home town. Have you heard the phrase, "Tabula rasa" it is Latin. It literally means blank slate; it is the epistemological thesis that individuals are born without innate mental content and that their knowledge comes from perception and experience. Going to school as you say ( I assume you mean the University or College) is your Tabula Rasa. It  is your future experience and perception that will form your knowledge. You may feel hurt now, but when you step on to you new campus and start meeting people, you will be ok.

Yes what you have experienced thus far in life, has an effect on you. But, really you will be within a new social strata-People who understand that there are so many other interesting people in the world and they don't have to have affairs with their best friend's boyfriend or girl friend's best friend if they are lonely or horny.

PassionFlower09

[ashley911]

ha ha ha haaaaaaaaaaa good one :)

[Gotmoxy]

Smart move! Go find yourself a man, and leave that little ace boy to play with his little ace girls!

[ashley911]

Thanks everybody ..ace girl is just a term for friends in my island like ace girl and ace boy...just like brethren etc ...I think imma leave and give him is promise ring back ..I don't want any ties
  

[ashley911]

Thanks everybody ..ace girl is just a term for friends in my island like ace girl and ace boy...just like brethren etc ...I think imma leave and give him is promise ring back ..I don't want any ties
  

[Gotmoxy]

Ok, forgive me, but I'm trying to understand your post. When your old best friend was working with you and told you she was with your man, in which he acknowledged, over the phone, that he liked her, wasn't it over then??!! He also took her to a dinner party instead of you!! It should have been over right then and there! Why would you stay and degrade yourself, even after he tells you that he indeed did cheat with those girls, which was no suprise??!! Girl, you have every right to let yourself loose, and for good!!! You should make copies of his picture and staple them all over town, marking him as a philandering loser!!! Get out of there and get some respect for yourself.

P.S. What the hell is an ace girl???

[mami1323]

He's been a dog since the beginning and I don't blame you for falling out of love. You've been way too forgiving to a man that didn't deserve it. I think its time to let this relationship go and find someone worthy of your love.

[teko]

I say yu wasted enough of your life on a go nowhere relationship that does not have even the core elements that would make one work. Why in the world are you still there?