Aa
Fed up
I was dating a guy for 3 years and loved him very much.
However, it turned out he had been cheating on me for a long time (2 years).
We split up and he had booked a holiday with her in Dec 09 back in February 09 so when I found out in the summer I justified his decision as he couldnt disappoint her children.
However, they had the holiday and I met up with him last night and am still totally in love with him.
He indulged in some footsie and I told him I still have strong feelings but he says that things have moved on as this woman has met his ex wife, children, parents etc and has probably moved on.
How can I make him love me and give me another chance?
I think about him all the time and want him back.
Would he have met with me if he wasnt interested? Why did he play footsie? Why did he flirt and hug me?
I love him so much I cant live without him and want a proper chance?
Any ideas and please **** just say move on, give me ideas to get him back as he is just perfect.
However, it turned out he had been cheating on me for a long time (2 years).
We split up and he had booked a holiday with her in Dec 09 back in February 09 so when I found out in the summer I justified his decision as he couldnt disappoint her children.
However, they had the holiday and I met up with him last night and am still totally in love with him.
He indulged in some footsie and I told him I still have strong feelings but he says that things have moved on as this woman has met his ex wife, children, parents etc and has probably moved on.
How can I make him love me and give me another chance?
I think about him all the time and want him back.
Would he have met with me if he wasnt interested? Why did he play footsie? Why did he flirt and hug me?
I love him so much I cant live without him and want a proper chance?
Any ideas and please **** just say move on, give me ideas to get him back as he is just perfect.
I guess you may be right, you may be wrong but we both feel that if hte circumstances had been different we would still be together.
All i can say b4 i shoot off into the blue ayonder is some woman stay or go back to men who will beat them black and blue, mentally torture, repeat having affairs over and over or continually lie but when you ask that woman why she won't leave him or wants to go back to him she will say 'I love him'....
I think this says far more about the woman than it does the man, it tells me she feels a sense of worthlessness inside, that she doesn't deserve any better, that she can't find any better, that she is afraid of being alone and is extremely insecure and the really sad thing is alot of these woman don't even realise how manipulated they have been, it's almost as if they have been brain washed.
As i said b4 we can sit and tap out on our keyboards all the advice in the world but i feel you need some one to help you believe in yourself again and find that confidence and assertivness to make changes in your life that are positive and constructive, rather than this self destructive obsession over this guy. In this world hun there are trillions of guys you can choose from, the tree is full for the picking, go out there and pick a one from the tree that is nice and ripe not one that has fallen to the floor and is starting to go rotten. Maybe get some councelling. Hope it all works out for you. Be strong, don't give in.
I think this says far more about the woman than it does the man, it tells me she feels a sense of worthlessness inside, that she doesn't deserve any better, that she can't find any better, that she is afraid of being alone and is extremely insecure and the really sad thing is alot of these woman don't even realise how manipulated they have been, it's almost as if they have been brain washed.
As i said b4 we can sit and tap out on our keyboards all the advice in the world but i feel you need some one to help you believe in yourself again and find that confidence and assertivness to make changes in your life that are positive and constructive, rather than this self destructive obsession over this guy. In this world hun there are trillions of guys you can choose from, the tree is full for the picking, go out there and pick a one from the tree that is nice and ripe not one that has fallen to the floor and is starting to go rotten. Maybe get some councelling. Hope it all works out for you. Be strong, don't give in.
mami1323 is 100% right here, you are choosing to allow yourself to feel this way. Look phone up some friends and make some arrangements to go on a few girly nights out, have some fun, let your hair down, have a good cry on a girlfriends shoulder if you have to but put this jerk behind you and you never know while your out having fun you may end up meeting the right guy for you, you never know... just you have to realise this man you are obsessing over isn't the right guy for you. LET GO!!
He hasn't left you to suffer you choose to allow yourself to feel that way. Instead of saying to yourself screw him I'm going to live life and be happy you've let him back in and see giving in to his manipulations. Your suffering is all on you.
Why on earth would you wana get back with this guy? an how can you say he is perfect? HELLO!!! He cheated on you and then you allowed him to continue this relationship with this other woman for the sake of HER children???? What on earth is that all about.
I think you need to learn to Love yourself alot more, cause this guy KNOWS you are a easy pushover and that is the reason why he was flirting with you and playing footsie under the table with you. Not because he loves you, not because he wants to build a life with you but because he knows he can manipulate you into doing what he wants and because he knows he can get away with it.
Dump his ars* and look for a guy who will respect you but i'm guessing you anit gona listen to a word anyone has told you on here, because you think you know him and because you see him in this rose coloured light but wake up girl and smell the bull shite, beccause he is nothing but a lying cheating dog, who in my opinion should have his balls chopped off and shoved down his throat.
I think you need to learn to Love yourself alot more, cause this guy KNOWS you are a easy pushover and that is the reason why he was flirting with you and playing footsie under the table with you. Not because he loves you, not because he wants to build a life with you but because he knows he can manipulate you into doing what he wants and because he knows he can get away with it.
Dump his ars* and look for a guy who will respect you but i'm guessing you anit gona listen to a word anyone has told you on here, because you think you know him and because you see him in this rose coloured light but wake up girl and smell the bull shite, beccause he is nothing but a lying cheating dog, who in my opinion should have his balls chopped off and shoved down his throat.
It is not about how he feels and what his life entails. It is more the consequences that he has left me to suffer as he goes on his merry way.
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