I guess I should of ask you this one. I did not want to share my personal issue with you. You are right it is going to be hard not helping him out, I have been helping out since we started getting to know each other, and sometimes when I call or he calls asking I get upset and stress. I told how stress I am but it does not seen to make any difference. You why too I want to help, tell me if this is ridiculous when I went to visit him again, he took care of me, I was welcome at his place he makes dinner, and he spend on me not all the time, I buy stuff for us to. I think of all the kind things he have done for me, and just know I should be kind in return. It have been almost two years since I have been taking care of him financially. I just need a break, it is and have been getting to me. Thx M, You're a wonderful friend. And thanks for finding my post.
You are right I don't need a charity case. I don't like to lie, it's not one of my biggest strong, he would ask if I am working I would say yes, and we all know what the next question will be. I will try your method and see.
It's amazing how love works. There are those that like to help and others who just take advantage of anther's heart.
I know you as a friend here on medhelp and you have helped me so it,s my turn now.Your so much better than that and i know you have a heart of gold and a beautiful,kind nature and i have felt that in our conversations but this guy is taking advantage and it,s crystall clear.He has to learn to stand on his own two feet and he should be taking care of his own financial situation.Don,t send him money anymore and make him realize that he needs to be a man and respect you.If you love him it,s going to be hard i know but if you don,t stop it will never end and your to nice for that.Take care SA.
No, you are not being selfish. What started out as help is now almost and expectation on his behalf..... it should stop. I'd tell this guy that you are financially tapped and cannot afford to send him money. His financial well being is NOT your responsibility and I'm guessing you don't need a charity case like this.
If money or the lack there of ends the relationship, good. It works best to find that out now, rather than later.
I would NOT even think about having any serious relationship with him; he is NOT financially independent. You have already suggested to him to "explore" other countries closeby for opportunity for work.
The other option is he could ask his family or other friends to help him. In regards to you, you have given and done enough for him.
QUIT NOW. You aren't his mother.