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i m 26 year old i m doing my mba i m very far from my house i have a bf at same place and x bf at old place i do chat with x bf one day we did phone sex that time i sent some nude pics of mine at the time of cheting . but after that i feel very bad i cant even think how can i do this nd this chating and pics also seen by my new bf now he is also very  upset and want to leave me i promise him that i will not repeat again but i feel sorry and guilty wt should i do plz suggest me
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I am sorry, this might sound rude but sending nude pics of yourself to your ex? really? Expecting to keep the relationship you are in after clearly showing no respect for that relationship?  REALLY? If the problem is you want to date around then that is fine do that and don't be in a relationship. If you want to be promiscuous that is your prerogative no one is forcing you to be in a couple. I am sorry I really wanted to try and give some advice but I cant seem to get through it because your problem is rather trivial.
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You're 26 years old and in graduate school. You should be way beyond this kind of juvenile behavior. Besides that, an ex is an ex for a reason. I'd personally rather stab myself in the eye than to ever have such intimate conversations with any of my exs ever again much less sending them those kinds of pictures. I can't imagine why you would ever want to do that. What were you thinking?

As for your current bf who I guess technically is now an ex too if he already left you, he has every right to be mad and to break up with you for what you did. If you apologize to him and he doesn't want to hear it then you're done. There's nothing you can do to change his mind. He's going to have to decide if he wants to keep you around or not. But I can tell you if it happened to me I'd break up with you also and never speak to you again because I have a zero tolerance policy when it comes to cheating.
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Ditto NG.  

We are in the brilliant age of technology and all people can do is send nude and/or inappropriate pics of themselves.......selfies and nonsense.

I would think more than just about your personal relationships in regards to these nude pics.  Keep in mind you want a career one day and these pics might just surface in the WRONG hands or be seen by the WRONG people.

THINK about what you are doing and consider this a "wake up" call.

What exactly are you feeling guilty about?  If you can't get through all this guilt then you probably should seek counseling.

You need to figure out why would you do this in the FIRST place.  You need to find out why you had to do this with an EX when you are in a relationship with another guy.  What aren't you getting out of the relationship with the new guy?  What is lacking?
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I agree that you need to decide what you want to do, and then commit.  

I would caution you to be VERY VERY careful sending pictures like that to ANYONE.  Once something like that is "out there", it's there forever and you just never know when or where it may show up in the future.  That's just NEVER a good idea.  I'm married for 16+ years and I wouldn't send my own husband anything I wouldn't care if it came back around some day.  Please keep that in mind and refrain from putting yourself in a position to have to deal with that in a way that may have consequences down the line (ie job, reputation, etc).

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What makes you feel worse--your guilt or your loss of your new boyfriend?  After your apology to your boyfriend, if he wants to be with you, you will need to walk the line and quit playing games and fooling around with exes.  You will have to show that he is the only one.  
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i know its trivial i did wrong and i realize that i will not do it again but now i feel  guilty i cant handle it
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