Getting depressed and giving up on my relationship

[2016mommy2be]

My husband and i have been together for 3 years already and living with his parents at first we agreed we would only be living with them for a few months then move to the city since this is a very small town population of less than 2000 people with very few opportunities since everything even the closest department store is like an hour away. We had agreed to move to the city because there would be more opportunities for us both there i would be able to finish college and get a stable job... Time came and went and we never moved turned out during a fight he admitted to me that he had never planned to move to the city because he wanted to stay close to home i was totally crushed because i had already put aside my dreams as soon as my son was born i then didnt even mind because of the wonderful bundle of joy god had send me ..now we also have a daughter and we still haven't moved out yet. I keep looking for a place to rent and tell him about it and he doesn't seem to care the house we live in with my inlaws is a 3 bedroom we are crammed up in one bedroom not to mention his brother lives here also...i just feel im getting depressed and feel im losing it.
i feel very resentful with him because i get it he is the sole provider for our kids and i but instead of giving $ for a down payment on a house for us he decided to get a motorcycle like seriously.. Sometimes i feel so much anger and frustration building up inside me i just feel like packing up my things and my kids things and leaving him but it just hurts me so nad i dont want to break up my family idk what to do? And on the other hand my MIL just nags about everything how she wants me to parent my kids ill parent them however i want to i dont think she is the best judge of telling me how to do things after she called my toddler stupid.. Sometimes i feel my husband and i don't have a future together because of his way of seeing things maybe we don't have the same goals in life and thats what hurts me because before when we were dating we both had the same goals and now everything has changed and im detaching from him without realizing it i just don't plan on living here with his parents my whole life

[specialmom]

That's really hard.  Is he worried about the finances?  Saving money by living wit the p's can be motivating to some.  But I think a couple really meshes most when they create their OWN home without either's family involved.  good lcuk

[AnnieBrooke]

It certainly doesn't sound pleasant.  Have you asked him why he wants to be under the same roof as his parents?  If he wants to stay near them that is one thing, but the very crowded living conditions can hardly be pleasant even for him.