He still hasn't introduced me to his parents ...

[Colima]

I recently married my husband in his country of residence, and although we married in the same city as my spouse's parents live in, he did not invite them nor did he ever introduce me to them. He claims it was because he was "on the outs" with them at the time, but later I discovered that he still lives with his parents (except when he was in the U.S. for college and work). So at the time that we married, although we were living together at a resort, he was officially living with his parents. Now he keeps delaying my meeting his parents. Initially he said when we got our I-129/K3 visa approved I would fly back, meet his family, and we would come to the U.S. - however, during our last conversation, he said I would meet his family "next year". I wonder if he is using me for money or a green card, even though so far he has paid for everything. The closer we get to having his visa approved, the more my intuition screams that something isn't right here. Today he replied to an email saying I haven't met his family because he hasn't met mine - but my entire family and all of my friends know that we married - and if he weren't 10,000 miles away he would have met my family before we ever married. But he and I were staying in the same town as his family lives for 30 days, and we even got married, and I never met them. It hurts to end this now, but I know it would hurt more 2-3 years from now when he gets citizenship and leaves me. I mean, we had a great time together and get along well, but there are a few issues, such as my not meeting his family and some sexual issues, that have me worried. I mean, he is Indian working in the UAE, but in all three cultures, Indian, Arab, and American, marriage is a FAMILY CENTERED event. There is also a sexual issue, being that during our time together our sexual relationship was limited - I initially thought it was because he was inexperienced, but he claims to have had many sexual relationships in the past.

[kathy434]

Your gut is screaming major warning to you.  I recommend you get out of there now, and get the marriage anulled, or divorced.  He is no man to be married to!  You need to get out of there with your passport, social security number, marriage certificate, money, birth certificate etc., everything !  Get on the plane for home without him even knowing it.  Then you can notify him that you are divorcing him  from the United States, and get a lawyer to carry out the anullment, or divorce.  The grounds "Total dishonesty on his part and also likely for the Green Card".

This guy is not honest with you at all.  He is using you to get his USA Citizenship.  Don't be his ticket.

Worse yet, he is probably already got a wife over there.  They do things differently in other countries, like his.  You DON'T WANT TO GET PREGNANT BY HIM.  A child with dual citizenship can be taken to his country and you will never see that child again.  That would be torchure.  And his government would not help you one bit.

I think it is clear to you now, that you had better get back to the states now.  Your gut is telling you this is bad, and all of us commenting on the situation are warning you the same.  Listen.

[Judy246]

He is definately hiding something from you and let your instincts guide you. Are you of Indian heritage also?

Give him an altimatum. Tell his straight out. I want to meet your family as soon as possible, so make the plans. If he is hesitant or come up with an excuse, tell him that you doubt his sincerity in the relationship and if he does not introduce you to the family immediately, you are going to leave him. The chances that he is using you for a visa is great and once he get's it, he will leave you, so beat him to it....either you meet his family now, and he is to do all the arrangements, or leave him and file for an annulment (as if you were never married at all)...you still have time. Good luck

[MrS_L0PeZ]

I think he is using You to get his green card. Him not introducing you to his family is very strange. He probaly hasn't even told them about you. Who knows, maybe he has another women on the side? That could also be the reason being the fact that you said theres also a sexual issue. I definately think You need to go with your gut feeling on this one. Good Luck!

[teko]

I think you need to go with the gut and realize the guy has used you to get what he wants and is probably why you have not met Mom and Dad. He probably has not told them?

[jo929]

i would say you are in a pickle so to speak, why would you even consider marrying someone when, not meeting the parents i have seen many men marry a woman and then when they get the green card, it is goodbye, i am not saying this is true in your case, but something is wrong and needs to be addressed now, and not later   luck  jo

[megochick101]

Have you even talked to his parents on the phone or any contact at all with them? Are you still close by them or not? If you are still close by, I would just call them yourself and Invite them over to meet you. It seems strange that he wouldn't want you to meet his parents. Do they even know he's married?? It does kind of seem to me that he's using you if he doesn't even want his family introduced to the woman he married.