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How many men consider Asian massage parlors cheating?
Tons of men go to these places including mine ex, and therefore i wonder if men consider getting naked in front of a woman and let her touch you sensually and then get a happy ending cheating. I assume not since those men feel no guilt whatever. How do you girls see this?
Both fault. Could be lack of communication of sexual desires. In the massage palour for example. The man is getting a massage and the person masturbates them after. Im not sure how many wives would do this with out expecting something in return. Do you think its common for a wife to do this without thinking the husband is being to demanding? Remember this is based on something wrong at home.
Theres no blame here. Its a desire that the man has and falls to the temptation from flaw in the relationship.
COMMUNITY LEADER
Well, if you take a vow of marriage and agree to be faithful--- when it comes to sexual desire and 'how often' and expectations, a couple must work that out between them. It's, in my opinion, not a woman's fault if her spouse needs sex or sexual release in a personal way and she is 'too demanding' to expect some affection afterwards. To me it is a flaw within the man that he can not control that urge if he married and agreed to be faithful.
There are also some men that have very unrealistic expectations of what sex should be between two people. These are the same men that indulge in porn. They feel that their sexual urge rates above their loyalty.
There are also some men that really could care less and being faithful was never something they considered doing.
And yes, there are some relationships that are troubled and a man then feels justified to 'step out' for sexual release. I personally would encourage that couple to either work on their problems or separate rather than stooping to being with a sex worker (which in essence, this industry of massage parlors is).
It does not necessarily mean a flaw in the relationship but of course at times it could. Could just be a flaw in the man though . . .
Generalizing on subjects like this is difficult to do as each situation is unique to those involved.
There are also some men that have very unrealistic expectations of what sex should be between two people. These are the same men that indulge in porn. They feel that their sexual urge rates above their loyalty.
There are also some men that really could care less and being faithful was never something they considered doing.
And yes, there are some relationships that are troubled and a man then feels justified to 'step out' for sexual release. I personally would encourage that couple to either work on their problems or separate rather than stooping to being with a sex worker (which in essence, this industry of massage parlors is).
It does not necessarily mean a flaw in the relationship but of course at times it could. Could just be a flaw in the man though . . .
Generalizing on subjects like this is difficult to do as each situation is unique to those involved.
I think answering the question about the wife massaging the man and giving him a happy ending is common. If the wife did this without him asking i feel would really put a limit on the number of men that do this and would bring them closer. I also feel if the man did this to the women would bring them close if she wanted this.
I can speak from experience. I had a girlfriend that was Asian and this was customary for her to do this. The first time i was shocked and embarressed and what ever temptation to go to a massage palor to vent frustration was put to an end. I really dont think this massage thing is a cheating thing but more from social caused frustration.
I can speak from experience. I had a girlfriend that was Asian and this was customary for her to do this. The first time i was shocked and embarressed and what ever temptation to go to a massage palor to vent frustration was put to an end. I really dont think this massage thing is a cheating thing but more from social caused frustration.
COMMUNITY LEADER
Well, we totally differ in opinion and that is okay.
What is your wife's opinion about this? Would she think it okay for you to go to a massage parlor and have a woman give you a hand job?
Men who do this do not tell their wives because it is sexual release by another person that they've paid for and that is difficult to explain to your spouse/partner that you feel it is their fault for not giving them more no strings attached hand jobs.
all opinions are valid though.
I looked for a spouse that felt the same way I did about outside sexual contact and I guess that is important to make sure you aren't cheating. If your spouse says its fine, then who can argue with that, right?
What is your wife's opinion about this? Would she think it okay for you to go to a massage parlor and have a woman give you a hand job?
Men who do this do not tell their wives because it is sexual release by another person that they've paid for and that is difficult to explain to your spouse/partner that you feel it is their fault for not giving them more no strings attached hand jobs.
all opinions are valid though.
I looked for a spouse that felt the same way I did about outside sexual contact and I guess that is important to make sure you aren't cheating. If your spouse says its fine, then who can argue with that, right?
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In response to the OP's question........
As far as I am concerned this is cheating. And if any man thinks this is the solution to whatever is "lacking" at home then I would say he should learn a thing or two about problem-solving. In my opinion, a man who does this sounds like a man who wants to have his cake and eat it too. I just think some men want "happy endings" from different women......wherever they can get one and use ANY excuse to justify what they do or did.
Hey, if you're single you can get all the "happy endings" you want......morning, noon and night, HOWEVER, when you are exclusive with someone or married then going elsewhere for this is definitely a NO NO and it surely isn't any good solution to problems at home.
I am glad my man uses his BRAIN instead of his MANHOOD when solving problems......I am a lucky girl. He isn't looking for any "happy endings" from a sex worker.