Aa
do i have a right to be mad!!
want to no how other people would handle this.I bought a SUV 11 months ago.My bf was driving it in Dec got a stone in the window,the window never had a crack in it,well he put a small crack in it told me he would fix it and never did.Now on the weekend he locked the keys in it and tore the back window out to get in it to open it,I freaked.He drove it to a glass shop found out that it would cost 600.00 to fix it so he got it glued in where I can never open it again.If I would do that to his or anybody elses suv I would fix it right no matter what the cost would be.So tell me what u all think should I forget about it becuz we have been together for five yrs now living together,or do I have every right to be ****ed off? Another thing he never even said sorry, and I paid lots for that suv at one time it was my dream to have it,now it feels like its just junk to me.
YES, YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO BE MAD!
And, you don't have to convince anyone of this. If ever in doubt, imagine a friend telling you the story, and then note your reaction. Trust your feelings. The guy is a jerk, and there is a reason we all agree even if we don't know the guy as well as you. It's his whole attitude.
And, you don't have to convince anyone of this. If ever in doubt, imagine a friend telling you the story, and then note your reaction. Trust your feelings. The guy is a jerk, and there is a reason we all agree even if we don't know the guy as well as you. It's his whole attitude.
I agree with Rockrose why does he need to ask your friends, you need to communicate with him. Sit him down and tell him you need 5 min of his time where he needs to listen to your feelings w/o interupting. Explain to him, how this made you feel, and what he needs to do now in order to fix it like Jesselee said figure out a way to solve this problem. Does your insurance cover vandalism? There is a very good adult way to handle this situation, but you need to step up and own your feelings, and be sure that you let him know about them. Whether the dog did it, the cat did it or a bird did it, that is not the point in here. YOur car, your dream, your money, all the maintance you put into the car, new tires oil change, tune ups, insurance, new parts, has come out of your pocket and the only reason he gets to drive it is because you worked your but off to keep it in tip top condition, so you two need to come to an agreement what will solve this problem for you?
He might tell you to put the dog to sleep.
He might tell you to put the dog to sleep.
Why is he having to ask your friends why you are mad at him?
Update! We have not talked for awhile now.He asked someone why I am mad at him..So here is more of the story.Our dog was in the suv and hit the power lock button,so he blames the dog.My friend told him that I was upset at him because how he fixed the window.Also that he never said sorry.He said I would like to see her pull out that much money to fix the window.I don't care if the dog pushed the door locks! the keys should not be left in the suv,I never leave the keys in it,if he was driving he should be the one responsible?And if u take the window out instead of calling someone to help and the window plastic breaks and u just glue it in u should also be responsible to fix it right.So people u agree that its still his fault or do u agree that its the dogs fault...lol...let me no!
as i said before 5 years, and I just wonder WHY? what does he have that is so special wasting time girl luck jo
He sounds like my ex-husband. He's definitely disrespectful. I don't care how hard he works, it's obvious he's only working for himself and what he wants. Sounds like a selfish son of a b*tch if you ask me. Lose him; you deserve better.
He is disrespecting you. What he did was disrespectful, he knew you would be outraged but didn't care. Think about not staying with this guy!!! It will only get worse. I cannot imagine dating someone like that.
gwen, your last question was a good one, and you need to figure this out.
Why don't you leave him? You're getting nothing - not love, not security, not fun, nothing from this guy. He's a rude jerk and he's getting sex for free from you.
You deserve better - and if you demand better, you will find a guy who will treat you with respect. You've let this guy use you too long.
Why don't you leave him? You're getting nothing - not love, not security, not fun, nothing from this guy. He's a rude jerk and he's getting sex for free from you.
You deserve better - and if you demand better, you will find a guy who will treat you with respect. You've let this guy use you too long.
beat that @$$...beat it beat it beat it...heck ya i'd be mad....heck, i'd take someone to court.....and your ins co doesnt offer free or cheap lock out services????? wtf over????
a rock yes, i have like 3 of them in my w/s....but if i broke my window(car in DF's name *I* make pymts), he would KILL ME, and he'd MAKE me pay for it somehow....like when i blew my engine(well, i did 1/4 of damage, our dealership didnt put the head on right, so it blew), i could pay but 500 of the 2g then....i had 6 months to come up with another 700....lucky me he wanted rims more than cash.....but heck, he made sure i paid him back!!! if i can't pay for tires, i "work" them off lol...as in, his oil change, or his car wash(it's $50 each time for detailing).....but that works for us....i don't pay back EVERYTHING just mostly 1/2 of exp stuff.....
a rock yes, i have like 3 of them in my w/s....but if i broke my window(car in DF's name *I* make pymts), he would KILL ME, and he'd MAKE me pay for it somehow....like when i blew my engine(well, i did 1/4 of damage, our dealership didnt put the head on right, so it blew), i could pay but 500 of the 2g then....i had 6 months to come up with another 700....lucky me he wanted rims more than cash.....but heck, he made sure i paid him back!!! if i can't pay for tires, i "work" them off lol...as in, his oil change, or his car wash(it's $50 each time for detailing).....but that works for us....i don't pay back EVERYTHING just mostly 1/2 of exp stuff.....
It bothers you and it should, yes you should be angry, yes, even if he doesn't listen you need to tell him to listen. It's your car, not his, let him know without getting defensive that the window needs to be fixed to your liking. You don't need to explain, when he drove the car, it wasn't like that right? I had a similar experience with my car, and I hated it when he drove my car so one day I said "you will no longer drive my car, end of story" And, when his car broke down, he lost his job, and guess what? I felt great about sticking up for what was mine, and in turn he respected me, now he pays the insurance, and maintainence for my car, and I in turn respect him for that. Stick up for yourself, you won't ever be sorry for taking care of yourself trust me.
Could there be a relationship, here? Could there be a correlation between your bf's mistreating and destroying something because this means so much to you, and this is something you care about so very much, and have wanted for so long, a dream of yours?
Is he angry at this SUV being so important to you, or is he jealous? If this is the case, then it would also make sense that this does not happen, or has happened on a regular basis before.
It also makes his behavior and motive that much more cruel. respect your feelings, Gwen. I would personally hate his guts; I would be so furious, I would not know what to do besides feel like killing him.
Is he angry at this SUV being so important to you, or is he jealous? If this is the case, then it would also make sense that this does not happen, or has happened on a regular basis before.
It also makes his behavior and motive that much more cruel. respect your feelings, Gwen. I would personally hate his guts; I would be so furious, I would not know what to do besides feel like killing him.
He sounds like a user. Why is he driving your vehicle instead of his own in the first place? I HATE for anyone to drive my truck. Like you I pay a lot of money each month on it and if something is going to happen to it I want it to be done by me!!! He doesn't sound like a very nice guy!!!
normal yes,hard working person he is.Work comes before anything else.No romance at all.The only nice gift I got from him was one yr after being with him he got me a engagment ring,I said yes but now I wear it on my right hand because i can't marry someone like him.He is the type of guy that if I told him the way I felt about my window he would freak out so whats the point saying anything.He is ten years older than me so he thinks that he is always right and he has done more than anybody else in this life time.He does stuff that upsets me alot.It upset me in a hurtful way,if I am watching t.v he will ***ch about the show I am watching mean while he can't stay up in front of the t.v he sleeps so I stopped watching all the shows I like when he is around,to me he just seems not to care any more,it don't matter how my feelings are as long as he thinks he is right its all great.He helps me with nothing around the house,he use to but that all stopped.He does not help me with money not at all!!! I was off work sick for a couple months he still never helped me.He gets his gas free at work,gives his son gas just about whenever he needs it I get one tank a month if that,well it goes on and on.I left a five yr marriage because i was not happy and in that life I had money this life I have no respect and no money! I sit and wonder why I don't leave him when I left better.
gwen, is this the only time you've seen this side of him? The stone on the windshield, I can see putting that off, but ripping your window out and then gluing it shut so you can't use it anymore is just really beyond what anyone would do.
In other areas of your life is he normal?
In other areas of your life is he normal?
No,were not married.I do the food bills he does the house bills. I pay my bills he pays his bills.I had no spare key.He told me there was no other way to get into the suv.I can really say this and mean it right now I really hate him for this,He has done mean things such as not giving my any flowers when I was in the hospital for ten days that hurt bad but this hurts LOTSSSSS.I don't no how to let this go I always let everything go this I just can't seem too.
Why the heck can't he pay for the damage? I'm confused by that. Are you married, do you share expenses? It doesn't matter how long you two have been together, respecting someone else's property is what matters here. If he's your man I would think he would have more respect for you, your property and your finances than that. I would be royally p*ssed.
Yes--you are right to be upset.
The last time I locked my keys in the car, my husband brought the spare key to me. My mother called AAA. One time, when my son locked one set of keys in the trunk and the other in the back seat of the car, a locksmith came out to open the car for $30. Years ago, the police would help you (then you'd have to show proof of ownership). I can't for the life of me understand why he would rip out a window. Did he ever say WHY he did such a thing? I would insist that he have it repaired correctly.
All that said, this can't possibly be the first inkling you've had of his disrespect for you and your things. While what he did was awful, this is more than being about a car. You have some soul-searching to do.
All the best to you.
The last time I locked my keys in the car, my husband brought the spare key to me. My mother called AAA. One time, when my son locked one set of keys in the trunk and the other in the back seat of the car, a locksmith came out to open the car for $30. Years ago, the police would help you (then you'd have to show proof of ownership). I can't for the life of me understand why he would rip out a window. Did he ever say WHY he did such a thing? I would insist that he have it repaired correctly.
All that said, this can't possibly be the first inkling you've had of his disrespect for you and your things. While what he did was awful, this is more than being about a car. You have some soul-searching to do.
All the best to you.
I don't see how the length of your relationship is relevant - no one should treat other people's things like that. The above posters said it - this guy is a loser and you are wasting your time with someone like that. To answer your question, yes you have every right to be upset.
what an a-hole. then he didn't even say sorry??? that itself speaks a thousand words
5 years to a guy like that??????wasting time luck jo
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