Help! I don't know what to do with this "relationship"

[billbonn25]

back in 2014 I met this guy on a phone app. we talked for awhile, a lot actually, but everytime we were supposed to meet something would come up to where I couldn't go and other times I was too scared as it was the first person I ever met off of a dating app. a year passed and I found out he was moving. when I found that out I went and met him right away. We hung out in almost every weekend in April and May of 2015. I liked him a lot but was too afraid to tell him. he moved the end of May and I didn't see him again until December. we went out to lunch and that was it. the next time I ended up seeing him again was late at night in February 2016. A lot of it seemed like just a sexual relationship but some things made me feel as if he wanted more. Finally I just couldn't take it anymore and told him I had feelings for him. he didn't feel the same way and said he was only looking for fwb. I was heart broken, I knew that was the case before I even told him I had feelings, but a part of me didn't want to believe it and hoped he wanted more. here I am 5 months later and still not over it. he snapchats me from time to time telling me I'm handsome and telling me goodnight and calling me sexy and all kinds of things that give me this hope that something could possibly happen. I barely hear from him much at all though. my head is telling me to just delete him off of all my social media and to move on but my heart is telling me not to and that I'll regret it. I just don't know what to do. I'm tired of suffering and hoping for something that probably won't ever happen. should I delete him off of everything and just cut him out of my life completely? or should I just sit around and wait? I'm so confused on what to do and I don't want to make the wrong choice and regret it later.

[fantima_r]

girl just move on ...omg..do not ruin your life for one sided feelings...best of luck!!

[Chima7]

That proves what a jerk he is to keep you dangling on that hook even though he has no intentions of ever having a relationship. Really he's not worth any more of your time. Save yourself from all of this by blocking him now. And spend more time now with your friends and family and doing stuff that you enjoy to get your mind off of him.

[Chima7]

Unfortunately he isn't contacting you out of interest for a relationship. The only reason why he keeps messaging you here and there is to keep you on the side in case he wants another hook up. That's all that many guys want is nothing more than just an empty hook up. Especially nowadays where no one seems to want a real relationship anymore. It's really sad but there's nothing you can do to change his mind.

In order to save yourself from further heartbreak about this you need to do as you said and delete him totally out of your life. Block him on every social media app and from your phone and email. Don't keep getting your hopes up over someone who just drops you crumbs every once in a blue moon just to make sure you're still on the hook.

[billbonn25]

@Chima7 the thing is, I told him that I couldn't hook up with him anymore because of the feelings and he still will text me every now and then and say those things which confuse me.

[Nighthawk61]

If i were you, i think that the fwb thing is not something that interests you as a person. It sounds like you regret the way it went hooking up for the sake of hooking up, as you say, you are "suffering" because of it.  I think most of us have had this happen to us, jumping into before being totally logical about what we want and how we should go about getting it for ourselves. You have learned from this... and now you need to hit the reset button, and move on, and i think that it would be a good thing for you to delete his friendship, learn from it, and move on to find someone that has the same relationship goals. Try to compartmentalize how you feel by writing in a "feelings" journal how you feel about what happened when you're feeling down, and when you close the book, try to remain free from further thoughts. Nothing will ruin your chances for a healthy relationship more than pining for something that never was.

Specify on dating apps what your relationship goals are, and you'll have much better luck. Hope you keep us updated on how you're doing.

[AnnieBrooke]

Him sending you a message and saying kind things every now and then is not him saying he wants to be in a relationship.  He's just trying to say thanks for the fwb that you had, and possibly let's have another hookup sometime if I'm in town.  Not let's have a relationship.  Sorry.  If you need to delete him from social media in order to feel like the "relationship" is over, then do so, because there was never really a relationship, just a guy willing to have a fwb thing for a short time.