Is a "Full" Massage cheating

[td0213]

My husband's co-workers were teasing him about not going for massages with them. He works in a Wall Street firm and needless to say the tension is crazy. Apparently these guys go for massages and the girls massage everything causing the men to ejaculate. My husband and I think this is wrong if you are married. Well you can not believe the debate this caused. Inno way are we bashing massages. I too go for them - but there is a line and we think that kind of massage is cheating. What do you men and woman think - are we prudes???

[erek]

massage can leads to sins that a man can't live.  Hypothetically speaking, the heat of the moment makes a man weak and can lead to more than a handjob.  Only with an understanding wife and repentance, can a man achieve a path to a happy life; when you make a mistake once you must never return to it.  The massage therapist is about business and can not give anything better than what a wife can offer.  Take it from me (a man).... you might save yourself and others from unecessary pain.

[specialmom]

I agree with Rockrose.  Yep, cheating it is-----------  and when a spouse confronts another about it and they say they won't do it anymore but still do behind their back . . . it speaks to more than cheating.  It is evidence of a significant marriage problem.  Good luck sorting it out.

[RockRose]

Lonnie,  you're kidding yourself.

Lots of men get all bent out of shape when their wives to go to a gynocologist or OB.  

Most men ( you being the exception) would be enraged if their woman paid some guy to get them off.

[RockRose]

Connie,  as I understand it,  it's not legal,  it's prostitution.  

If your husband considers going to a prostitute is not cheating (which is what he's doing) then he's got kind of a weird view of things - or most probably,  he hopes to just get away with cheating.

His massage therapist is a prostitute,  by law.

[connie1951]

ok my question is, is there anyone out here that has had a husband that has been getting a full body massage, that has not been in agreement with it stay in the relatioship and how do you handle it.  My husband has been going for  quite a while with a happy ending.  I say that is cheating and he says it is not.  My view is when you are married that part of your body is for your partner not someone else that knows what you like and do not like.  He has been having a  massage by the same person and he gets to massage her also.  So I really feel betrayed and hurt.  I really love him and he says he is not going to go anymore but then I find out he still is.  We have gone a few time together as a couple so I could see where actually happens.  Its not really that bad because all he gets is a happy ending but in my book that is still cheating when you can touch and be touched by someone else.  Just want to chat with someone that has been down this same road.  We have been together for 18 yrs and yes we have sex quite a bit at least 3 or 4 times a week sometimes more so he cannot say I am not taking care of him.  Just do not understand why men feel they have to have a massage and keep it a secret.  If nothing is going on why do you have to hide it.

[lonnie736]

if the woman gets her "full" massage, it wouldn't bother 90% of men, i guarantee you. this is the problem, a stark double standard. a husband would be happy that his wife is having a happy ending (resulting in her being more "pleased" in life, literally) and he would not mind in the least. strange the way human nature works. not always equal or similar in perspective, one gender to the other.