Is a "Full" Massage cheating

[td0213]

My husband's co-workers were teasing him about not going for massages with them. He works in a Wall Street firm and needless to say the tension is crazy. Apparently these guys go for massages and the girls massage everything causing the men to ejaculate. My husband and I think this is wrong if you are married. Well you can not believe the debate this caused. Inno way are we bashing massages. I too go for them - but there is a line and we think that kind of massage is cheating. What do you men and woman think - are we prudes???

[mami1323]

Lol thanks imanaddict. I guess my point was missed. I said it goes both ways. I can't see myself giving my man sex if I'm being mistreated or ignored. If he's plopped infront of the tv when he's home and then jumps in bed expecting to get some well no thanks. Women need affection and love and attention to get in the mood. So that was my point.

[imanaddict]

This old post got WAY off topic! LOL! Well since I'm already here, I'll bite. Back to the OP's question of whether a full massage with happy ending is cheating, I would definitely say YES. I love to give my husband massages, along with happy endings. Not every massage ends that way, but I like to massage his strong body and it's a major turn on to both of us. We joke about massage parlors that offer these type of services and sometimes use it to our advantage (role play).

As for sex being an obligation or  duty, I don't think that is the way Mami meant it. It only becomes an obligation or duty if she feels she has to do it and isn't in the mood at that time. She's a trooper because her man gets it a lot more than mine does! LOL!!!! I wish I could get it as often but with us working different shifts, it just isn't possible =(  

[jazzy907]

You missed jjbunning's point.  I think "once a month" is hyperbole.  The point is that sex is important for a man and that when it becomes a rare occurrence other areas of the relationship will break down rapidly.  Also, the definition of rare depends on the couple but in my world once a week is okay. However, any extended period beyond this amount of time and  I'm not okay.  A guy will not want to cuddle, listen, or be "understanding". Newsflash, sex is important to a healthy relationship.  What else makes a monogamous relationship different from just being roommates?  

Also, you used the term "duty".  I call it keeping each other happy. My wife has things she likes & I do it because duty calls and I want her to be happy.
You also said, " I wouldn't want to give my man sex..." Again,  you proved jjbunnings point regarding a "reward & barter" system.  

By the way, if your guy is pressuring you for sex when your pregnant then he's got issues.  Sounds like you were giving us some insight into your situation.  

[mami1323]

It just boils my blood feeling like women have to be always fulfilling their duties...if that's what it's called....without any type of reciprocation for it or without men really giving women what they need.  Relationships are a two way street and both have to give 100% full effort.  Not just us alone.  I wouldn't want to give my man sex if I wasn't receiving any love, affection or help.  It's not about barter system, it's about feeling appreciated and not alone.  If more men did that, then I guarantee you, women would be more ready and willing to want to have sex.

[Amie635]

Hmm. I wonder how it would be if the tables were turned and the female got a "full body massage" from a sexy young male. I wonder if it would be cheating then?

[specialmom]

I do want to comment as well that the reason this keeps surfacing is that someone is on the internet and searching as it is a topic of interest to them.  They pull it back up themselves.