Hello,
My husband and I are going on our 11th wedding anniversary and you would think this would be such a happy time, but unfortunetely, it is not. We have been having problems on and off since I was laid off from my job back in 2007. It isn't your typical marriage, my husband is a paraplegic and is in a wheelchair. We went to high school together before his accident but weren't real close friends or anything. Then is 1996 he was involved in a motorcycle accident in which he broke his back. I feel resentement towards him for me having to give up so much that I used to love to do, example, going camping...but then I begin feeling guilty for feeling that way. He has resentment towards me for not having been able to hold down a job and contribute. I suffer from severe depression along with PTSD and ADHD. It affects my life and makes things very difficult for me, I'm not making excuses, I take my meds, I go to counseling...but he doesn't understand it. He thinks I should be able to work no matter what the case may be. He has been at his job for 18 years and has supported me for the past 11 years. I do feel so terribly guilty about all this. And there have been other things that have happened. The fact is we're both not perfect but for the past few months he has been very moody towards me, as he suddenly stopped taking all his meds, including his antidepressants and he has these anger outbursts towards me and constantly is telling me he wants a divorce, so then I try even harder to make things better. I am due to start a new job with a great company, great pay plus benefits and its working from my home. I'm super stoked about this job and feel that I will be able to keep it as I've been feeling stable now for awhile. But he tells me that this is our main problem, the finances and so if I keep this job and say I'm 3 months into it and he is still treating me this way, what do I do then because obviously it was more than just the work issue ya know....he says this is my very last chance to prove to him that I can be independant and I want to prove this to myself first, but a lot of other people too!! I must admit though, I am a little scared. Any advice? Thanks everyone! Sincerely, Kelly