is this verbal abuse?

[whitecat78]

A while ago I was having chronic bladder infections and then yeast infections from taking antibiotics, this was all cause from sex.,  it was a viscous cycle.  It happen for months, I starting getting really depressed. I couldn't figure out a solution, until finally did enough research and fixed it.  I had to change sex positions and take d-ma-nose.   While all this was going on, I felt like my boyfriend wasn't supportive.  He constantly said I was over exaggerating and I was a lier, he said I cried like a baby and would always accuse me of having mental problems "saying I was having another episode" My boyfriend is also hyper-sexual, so he constantly wanted sex, which gave me anxiety because of all the problems.  I feel like he taunts me, for example I will say i feel anxiety and his response is  " this is boring"

[marriageharmony]

Just the mere fact of him telling you you have mental problems is emotional abuse.  This is often called "gas lighting"- he is trying to make you doubt yourself.   This is NOT ok.  
Saying you are having "another episode" is also very textbook emotional abuse.  
I is very hard for people like this to change their ways even with therapy.  If you don't have kids, I would drop him like a bad habit.
Remember: There is a cycle of abuse.  In between episodes of abuse he will tell you how much he loves you, how special you are, and how he won't do it again. But this is not special.  It is all part of the "cycle of abuse."  
I know its easier said than done, but on paper, you should get away from him and work to heal the damage his toxic behavior has done to you, before you get into another relationship.

[Judy246]

How selfish, insensitive and verbally abusive. Any man that would not take into consideration my health, because of his sexual needs is out the door. You deserve to be treated with consideration, respect and put first! Dump the guy, he's no good.

[iam1butterfly]

Sounds more like he's insensitive, selfish and... stupid!  I'd dump him, if I were you.

[AHP84]

I agree with everyone else. What an insensitive, selfish jerk. My ex bf was like this as well. That's one of the main reasons why he's my ex.
Dump this guy.

[whitecat78]

thanks everyone for the supportive comments.  

[Jennifer1987]

Ha you know if you were from Ireland id say you must be dating my ex!!! They are not worth all this hassle!!! Please leave this jerk before you get hurt even more than you are now....  No man is worth your tears, I have learned that and i hope you do to.. And for him to be abusive about your health, just cause he wants sex.. Well thats just sick!! Hes not a man, hes a jerk!!!

[penswriter]

i agree with all above. he sounds like a selfish, insensitive jerk. you're having health issues and he's calling you mental???? no that is not what a loving and caring man does. he doesn't say you're a liar or that it's all in your head.

have you sat him down to explain what's going on? or take him with you to your doctors appointment so your doc can explain it to him. if he still doesn't realize that you do in fact have health issues....get rid of him. that's not a healthy relationship.

good luck!

[specialmom]

Agree agree agree.  He sounds horribly insensitive to your needs and selfish.  I am hoping your next boyfriend shows you more compassion and empathy!  You deserve better treatment than this.  good luck

[teko]

Sounds like boyfriend needs to grow up and you need to see him for what he really is. You are wearing rose colored glasses and you want him to be the image in your head and he isnt, take the glasses off and tell him to grow up or get the H out of your life. Who needs that?

[PromisedLand]

my wife has been through more surgeries than I can count..she's bad breast cancer surgery, several reconstruction surgeries and recontstuction on the reconstruction..she
has only 1 eye and doesn't see well out of that and has many visits to many specialists none of whom can figure out what is going on...these are people from Harvard, some very prominent eye people whom people come from all over the world to see.  She is in constant pain as a result of the reconstruction surgeries, a couple of herniated disks and God knows what else...

The absolute LAST thing in the world I would do is pressure her into having sex...in the last 2 years we both wanted it, we tried and she just could not do it.  Did I accuse her of lying..or anything that your man has done to you?  No...I've been there to comfort her, to rub her back to help her any way I can..

Yes, you are being verbally abused, he is showing you absolutely no consideration or respect...were I to do this, I'd be out there door and I agree with Judy that is where this man should be..

You deserve and need much better than this and I pray you find it soon

God bless you

Jim