Long Distance Relationship

[janellin]

I'm going away to college in the spring in america. I am living in the caribbean both me and my boyfriend do not want to end the relationship since we just started and have strong feelings for each other. We have been together for almost 6months.We have a stratedgy but I will like to get more information or advice on how to do a long distance relationship. Thanks much :)

[specialmom]

Your welcome sweetie.  I hope it works out for you.  good luck

[janellin]

Thanks for the advice. :)

[specialmom]

I'd come up with a schedule of when you can see each other again and mark calanders.  When can you plan some trips to get together in person?  If you going off to college with a vehicle, you can try to coordinate trips to visit maybe once a month for a weekend.  Or we have a great bus system in the Us and trains as well.  Plan some get togethers and try to work out the finances of making these trips.  Also, in most big US universities, they have travel boards.  You will notice different people post things about where they live and when they are returning home.  I did that Freshman year in college before I had a car and wanted to travel home or wanted to visit a friend at another college.  You just help to pay for gas money.  As you can often meet people beforehand and might know people they know or they may have references, I never felt unsafe doing this.  It's an option you can check out when you begin classes in the Fall.  

You can skype, text, and call as well.

Another important thing about long distance relationships is to give each other some freedom and some slack as well.  By this I mean, both of you should be able to go out and enjoy yourselves without feeling bad or having the other person get mad.  It is impossible to close one's self off from the world and  if there is an understanding that both are supposed to still enjoy the college experience when not together, fighting and hard feelings will be less.  

I wish you lots of luck.

[Kayannaboo]

Long distance relationships are certainly hard to maintain. However, given technological developments, it can be a bit easier. Making time to talk on the phone is a must in order to keep up with stories and happenings in each others life. Often times this is a downfall in long distance relationships; persons do not make time to talk to each other and so everyday events are often missed resulting in loss of interest as it gets tedious to go through it all. It also feels like the person has missed so much that you do not feel a need to talk to them about anything.

Skype. This is a good one. Its free and can be used on the computer as well as the cell phone. You two can video chat and its quite exciting too. There are some other apps for cell phones that are very useful and cost effective (free) like viber and tango. You can send emails, I often find that written words say alot more than spoken, for me at least. When you write, you find stuff to say as you go along.

I know its old fashioned but sending letters are just so romantic to me. With computers and text messaging, it is hardly done but writing a lovely letter or poem and anticipating the response keeps a certain spark that instant messaging does not have.

I hope it all works out doll. Take care

xoxoxoxo Anna