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I have a problem
I married a great man. But he has changed. We only got together 6 months ago and got married this month. But now instead of him being home all the time like he was he wants to spend all of him time up at his grandma's with his mom and dad. Who are still very young themselves.. But I don't get it no matter what I say or do he never wants to be home anymore.. Should I just let him go and only see him when it's time to sleep. Or should I let him know for once and for all how I feel.. I cry alot cuz he's not home.. I am surely not regreting getting married to him so don't think that. I really feel like god showed me him for a reason I just want to know what I should do..
this is jo again i wanted to ask what your folks thought of a relationship at the age of 12 also what do they think of the marriage luck jo
you do not say how old your husband is and it seems like you have seen enough of life being with the other person 4 years would mean that at 12 you started a relationship with a girl also. is he the only guy you have dated you do not say much about him except he is woderful and wants to go see his family a lot if he wont take you something is wrong 16 is very young why do you not just talk to him and ask outright. then you will know and only you can break this girl from calling just tell her you no longer want to hear from her or you will call the police also have you thought about finishing your education it can do a lot for you and also you will see life differently if the girl convinced you that you were a lesbion this man might be very convincing also i am sorry you are in this position but you married him and he needs to decide and if he does not take you with him ask why also finish school whether you stay married or not and try to wait before you have a child. you need to grow some first before motherhood hits you. then you will be stuck so to speak lots luck jo.
Yikes. Didn't see the part where you are 16. Now that I realize this--I'm with Rock Rose.
Janet, this is a mistake. Sometimes you just have to say oops, I've made a mistake and not allow the mistake to continue to grow.
You don't say whether you're still in school finishing up, but 16 is way too young to be married - and you don't know this man you married. Six months is not long enough for a 16 year old to know a guy and make a mature informed decision.
You want this to work, you want to think you married a great guy, but great guys don't go marrying little girls and then leaving them while they hang out at mom and dad's house.
You don't say whether you're still in school finishing up, but 16 is way too young to be married - and you don't know this man you married. Six months is not long enough for a 16 year old to know a guy and make a mature informed decision.
You want this to work, you want to think you married a great guy, but great guys don't go marrying little girls and then leaving them while they hang out at mom and dad's house.
If you are really needy, he may be feeling a bit overwhelmed. Does he ever ask you to join him? If not, he's avoiding you. But don't take that personally--it's about him...he's obviously feeling overwhelmed about being responsible for your happiness.
I would find ways to make friends and invite them over when he goes to his parents. I'm telling you, the less needy you are of him and his time, the less he will avoid you and the more he will want to be with you. It's overwhelming feeling like you are totally responsible for someone's happiness. I dated a guy years ago and he dropped all his friends when I met him and he became obsessed with me--I kept telling him to call his friends, but he wouldn't...and when I would go out with my friends after work, he'd ask me if he could meet up with us. I started to avoid him. It's unattractive to be needy like that.
Go to your local Barnes and Noble and join a book club. Take a class at your community center (belly dancing or water aerobics or aura reading or something--anything that interests you), join a ski club, get involved politically with your local party affiliation, take an art class to learn to paint, get involved in a group at your church, take a history class at the community college. Figure out what interests you and find a group to join or a class to take so you can meet people with the same interests.
When you stop needing him so much is when he will come around.
Best of luck to you.
I would find ways to make friends and invite them over when he goes to his parents. I'm telling you, the less needy you are of him and his time, the less he will avoid you and the more he will want to be with you. It's overwhelming feeling like you are totally responsible for someone's happiness. I dated a guy years ago and he dropped all his friends when I met him and he became obsessed with me--I kept telling him to call his friends, but he wouldn't...and when I would go out with my friends after work, he'd ask me if he could meet up with us. I started to avoid him. It's unattractive to be needy like that.
Go to your local Barnes and Noble and join a book club. Take a class at your community center (belly dancing or water aerobics or aura reading or something--anything that interests you), join a ski club, get involved politically with your local party affiliation, take an art class to learn to paint, get involved in a group at your church, take a history class at the community college. Figure out what interests you and find a group to join or a class to take so you can meet people with the same interests.
When you stop needing him so much is when he will come around.
Best of luck to you.
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