Mami~ I appreciate your response. I hate what I did and know that I always will, I should have never done it and I totally regret it! I think you are right thought that this made me realize that this is what I want and that I do love him. I know I get so upset and cought up on all the little things and I shouldn't because it's all part of the process. I guess when nothing was wrong and everything was great, I looked for something to be wrong and that's when the stupid little things came up. It will talk time and lots of it, and eventhough he has forgiven me I don't know if I will ever be able to forgive myself.
wow.... where's Mauri????
I think everything that happens in life is a growth experience. K will most likely mature and grow from this. Perhaps she needed this to happen in order to appreciate her fiance a bit more. Maybe next time something small like him lending his friend some money won't seem like such a majorly big deal. It helps her to understand that not everything has to be a huge argument. Regardless, maybe they needed a bump in the road to weigh out whether this relationship is worth holding on to. Of course the bump shouldn't have been so big but who are we to judge. I don't agree with what she did and we could beat her over and over but the damage was already done. She will kick herself harder than we could. K I hope you learned your lesson and will never do that again to him. If the relationship is not working then leave it, don't do such a damaging thing again. Also, just because it is out in the open doesn't mean all is forgiven. It will take a lot of work, and I'm speaking from experience. Every time you don't answer your cell right away or any time you are out without him, he will wonder what you are doing. It is an ongoing battle and you need to prepare yourself for it. Be patient with him because forgiving someone for that kind of betrayal is tough.
Guess I was kind of harsh. Sorry about that. I just think that K1990 needs to grow up a bit and not be handled with kid gloves which I think you do for her. That's your perrogative I guess. For me, I learn the most when ppl are harsh. I grew up with a sister that basically hated me. But she made me tough or else I would have fallen to pieces whenever something went wrong in my life. The truth hurts but it also saves time.
Maybe it's more like Teko said, she just needs to go through this stuff to mature a bit.
I dunno guys. I think it just boils down to life experience or lack thereof, immaturity and the need to feel loved and get attention. No more, no less. Life will soon take care of it all however and decisions made will determine how much pain and misery in the process. Tell your guy what happened and start clean from there. You owe him that and please, get tested for std's. No one wants one to think badly of them thereby no one wants to admit. it.
better safe than sorry.
Wait, mayflowers, I didn't really finish.
I was about the only one on the diaper change/breastfeeding in public who agreed with a single thing you said, maybe a couple other people said something in your defense.
You are harsh, girl. Get a lover.