I'm glad that you talked things over with him :) I wish the best for you and I am very glad that you realize it was wrong and that it cannot happen again. I hope your friend respects your opinion and that if you and your ex fiance decide to stay together, that he manages to put everything behind you guys and move on. It's going to be hard, but I'm sure he's glad you told him. Good luck with everything :)
um...while i wouldn't diagnose K i was about to comment on her dramatics. i thought back to some of the older posts (where i thought she was just really young, silly, and in love) and she did over exaggerate circumstances and blow little nothings into big problems but i meet people like that all the time and it's always something going on. some people ALWAYS have to have something over-the-top going on in their lives or they don't feel 'alive'. if there is a disorder named for that then that's the label
perhaps, that relationship was getting boring, so the thrill of an engagement and wedding planning was very welcoming. now engaged, it was something about the rings for a bit. also, there were things about the families and cultures too. then it was boredom w/ the engagement and the rings and so now this. whether K and david break up or not, this is still an exciting chapter right here. ...and next week on this electrifying series ladies and gentlemen... question is, is david down for this ride???
I thank everyone for your opinions, some more than other but you all can say what you would like. I've gone over everything, I have told my fiance what happened and we have discussed all of this... he said he forgives me but it will take time for him to trust me again. We are going to give it sometime and maybe try again or maybe not... We are going to work on everything, we will still live together but I will be moving into the other bedroom. We will see what happens and reasses when the time comes. I still love him and I know I do. Once I handed his ring back it all hit me... that I don't want to give this up that I love him and that I want to do all I can to make it work. And that means no more talking to my friend from Iraq and I told my friend that. That we have nothing, what happened was stupid and a mistake and it can't and will never happen again! So for those of you that have been kind and supportive (Babypooh, BabyHardiman, RockRose). For those of you were weren't very respectful your opinions are your opinions and you may say whatever you would like. None of this is easy but it is all my fault so I have no one to blame but myself.
We are all entitled to our opinions, but once again, there is no need to say it in a disrespectful manner. Being blunt and being disrespectful can be two separate things. K1990 will ask for the help that she needs and I haven't seen her ask for any kind of help for any mental condition. Until she does, we shouldn't suggest it as it can come out to seem uncalled for.
RockRose gave her opinion and if she believes that K1990 does not fit the description of the mentioned mental condition, then that's fine. That's not necessarily enabling K1990 here.
I think we can all get along and be friends without bashing each other's comments :)
Remember: Love and Peace, ladies :)
RR, we are not talking about her behind her back. This is an open forum for God's sake. She can read this, everything is out in the open. I think she does fit this description except for the suicide talk. I haven't heard that yet. There is something mentally wrong with this young girl. She needs help and it's people like you that are enabling her to continue with the hysterics and drama. You are not helping her, you are enabling her to continue bad and dangerous behavior. I think you feel sorry for her and are trying to sound like the "good mother" that she never had. Get a grip lady and stop enabling people who really need some medical attention.
You write like you know about everything and it seems like you've belonged to every group imaginable. You write like you're an expert on medical conditions, relationships, marriage. If you've got that much time on your hands, something is very wrong with your life.
While we're all discussing her behind her back, and some diagnosing her over the internet, let me please join in.
I don't think this diagnosis fits her at all.
HISTRIONIC PERSONALITY
Constant seeking of reassurance or approval. -sort of
Excessive dramatics with exaggerated displays of emotions. - not really
Excessive sensitivity to criticism or disapproval. not at all, exactly the opposite
Inappropriately seductive appearance or behavior. - no
Excessive concern with physical appearance. - no
A need to be the center of attention (self-centeredness). don't know
Low tolerance for frustration or delayed gratification. no, exactly the opposite
Rapidly shifting emotional states that may appear shallow to others. no
Opinions are easily influenced by other people, but difficult to back up with details. no
Tendency to believe that relationships are more intimate than they actually are. no
Making rash decisions. no
Threatening or attempting suicide no
I've seen histrionic people, and she isn't it.