my husband is unhappy. he is not unhappy with me, but with our present situation. we are newly married (1 year in sept.) and have a 14 month old son. we come from very different backgrounds but love eachother very much, generally get along very well and have a great time. i knew at the time we were getting married, one major concern of mine was that his immediate family lives in colorado. we reside here in nj with the entirety of my family and some of his extended family. the major difference in our backgrounds are that he was brought up with his family moving around fairly often whereas i have live in one town my whole life. we talked about this at great length before getting married and he told me he would stay here in nj with me and raise our family together. my father has been ill for a long time, in and out of the hospital and my mother is my best friend. i couldn't bear leaving either one of them. well, lately, my husband has been talking more and more about moving out to colorado and the stress of the topic is weighing on both of us. it is starting to effect us in every way possible and its so hard because there is no common ground. i don't want to leave my family - my support system and he wants his family - his support system. to me, it doesn't seem fair to take me away from my family just to be closer to his while it also isn't fair to keep him from his family so i could be with mine. we don't have the $$ to visit colorado as often as we'd like, but his family does make an effort to come visit us here quite a bit. he was originally born here in nj and so like i said - he has some extended family here that we also see on a regular basis. but he thinks colorado will be a better life for us. he says can work with his dad's family business, the cost of living is less and the small town in which he grew up is peaceful (he says peaceful, i say middle of nowhere) i am a nj girl born and raised. i have always worked. i have always hussled around this busy state without blinking an eye. leaving here for a town of a handful of people with nothing but a walmart isn't so appealing to me. but i don't want him to be unhappy either. its also frustrating because he talks and talks about it, but has yet to come to me with any sort of PLAN. i can't imagine just picking up and leaving one day with nothing but a hope that it will all work out okay. we don't have $$ saved for that sort of risk and if for any reason it doesn't work out, we'll have nothing to come back to. we'll both have to quit our jobs to leave and we only rent a house now, so, i guess im just scared. my husband is a plumber by trade but he is good at anything he tries to do. he has been a mason, carpenter, etc. and right now does well with this company but is unhappy. works too many hours for not enough pay and all the $$ we make goes to out of control bills. so he is unhappy that he cannot enjoy the fruits of his labor, cannot live where he wants to live and because cannot see his family. i totally understand 100% but am clueless as how to fix it.