"His roots" meaning what? "Traumatic time?" I guess I am searching for more detailed information to better respond to your post.
You stated the relationship was ok until he married his partner, but now you say he is suffering from the "blame syndrome." If the latter is true then how could the relationship have been ok before this marriage? The relationship would of been not ideal for a while............since he left home at 18.
Roots meaning his lineage - traumatic time, he was victimized by a Teacher and the blame syndrome can occur after a bad experience during childhood, according to Freud. He left home at 18 because he did not want to return to his country of birth after my Husband's death.
I am familiar with Freud, but has he actually been assessed by a Psychologist or Psychiatrist? In other words, did you get him any counseling; did he receive any counseling?
Was he bullied because of his ethnic background or nationality?
I am assuming you all aren't from the US.
Its possible that what he sees in your eyes is not the same as what he hears you speak.
Normally people just don't cut you off without something major happening. Perhaps it was one incident or a cumulation of incidents over the years.