Let me begin by telling you that you deserve to be happy! I know what it's like to miscarrry, and it's awful. As hard as it is to understand why God would put you through that, there IS a reason.
If you are having trouble talking with your husband, maybe you could ask him what he thinks of marriage counseling. If you're unhappy, talk to him about it. If he's not ready to open up, that's fine, but if you can at least start a conversation then the ball is in his court and its up to him.
You are in my prayers!
Leave him!!! Have your baby and be happy, I've raised a baby by myself it's not easy but worth it he is now 10 and we are expecting a girl in August, I will raise her on my own also
Hi my story is not very different from yours.
Anyways be positive. Those kind of husbands should not deserve good ladies. Be strong.
How old are you? What do you do?
What do you want?
U deserve to be happy my dear, why stay if u feel u dnt love him anymore. Is this the kind of life u wish for yourself?
Hi, I'm not sure if you're a Christian. But you did mention God. I know this goes against what most people would say but I think it's important to remember that you made a commitment with your husband to love him and be there for him in good times and in bad. I know it's easy to point fingers and blame him for how you feel. It can't be easy for either of you to lose the lives of your unborn children, but see that is what you two are facing together, not separate. Try to open up to him about how you're feeling and maybe ask him how he feels without any judgement.
Adding a baby to your marriage won't fix anything. You either need to leave him, or start working on your relationship. He has to be willing to work with you on it. Whether you decide to go to therapy or just read a book and work on marriage together, you need to be putting effort into your relationship before you get pregnant again. Or leave him and work towards your goals with someone else.
You deserve to be happy, but only you know what's going to be best.
From my perspective, you seem very naive.
If your husband is worried about bills, you should listen.
A baby is a huge responsibility when it comes to money.
Huge.
And you can't be mad that he has kids by someone else and not you.
Your husband doesn't sound ready for more responsibility, and its wrong for you to try and force it upon him, or make him feel guilty for it.
If you are truly unhappy. I'd suggest leaving him and going to live with your parents.
It sounds to me like you just have a huge case of baby fever.
I been down that road with my ex and left him he wasn't ready for things that I was ready for now we're both in a new relationship and happy I am married with 3 kids and 1 on the way my ex is engaged with no kids and he is also happy.
I had a miscarriage last year too. It was my first. It is a horrible feeling so I understand. I also understand that it is stressful to have a baby when you have bills but bills are always going to be there. You deserve to be happy. Marriage counseling sounds like an appropriate step.
Lastly I will tell you this. Te person you have next to you should be someone you are happy with, someone that supports you and bad and good times. Someone who will understand you and if you don't feel happy with that person then perhaps he isn't the right person to be with. When I had my miscarriage my husband cry with me and was super supportive throughout. Now we are pregnant again and we are both scare but happy. That is what a good partner is- someone you can trust blindly.
In my opinion, you need to pray to God about this, especially his mother's behavior towards you and about what you want for your relationship. He may be comfortable deep inside because he has kids of his own and is not in a hurry to get other but you need babies of your own. I don't think you are naive to think the way you do. Bills will always be there. Don't get babies with him unless you are comfortable that he will stand by you because it only gets worse if you have his babies and he is not talking to you or treating you as you would like him to. I pray things work out soon.
Marriage counseling is one way to go, but i would be planning on leaving. It doesn't sound like he treats you well, and unless there is a lot of change on his part, i don't see you being happy. Maybe you need to talk to a therapist yourself, to be sure that you know exactly how to look for a mate that is open and communicative , healthy etc. So you don't make the mistake of going down the wrong road with the wrong guy again. Your priority is to build a family, so talk about this with a life coach, and move on so you can find the one that you don't have to change.
hi in my opinion i think you deserve better than him...he is just ignoring you and in fact he doesn't want children from you ... its time to take a step for your happiness because his 2nd excuse for child was like meaningless and without any point....