Well, hopefully this girl begins dating and finds a partner. Is that her plan? Is she going to become someone's wife? That would be a great thing as then she would not be so involved in yours.
Very strange indeed. Was this an arranged marriage?
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You were aware of this relationship from day one with your husband so just be cool and let this drama ride itself out. Ive noticed that family members can be very close but it is a back and forth thing. One day close and the next day fighting as the same whats happening now with them. Eventually they will find an level ground for communication as the sister will find her mate which will take her focus on him.
The sister is the biggest problem here. She is (was) intentionally catering to your husbands ego to get him to break from you. Men can be really silly when a woman does and says everything they want to hear, and especially when its a sister (i assume she is younger than him) as is a big brother ego trip.
Your husband is just being manipulated by her and he so immature that he cant see it. You must love him very much to have put up with this but your love that you are showing him is also revealing your weaknesses to him.
If you want to make this work, use the same tactics that the sister used as he is a sucker for this attention. He has the power over you and you need to get some power over him. It is obvious that you try not to push his buttons as are insecure about his feelings for you, but you should not compromise your personality to the degree that you have as most men will take advantage of this and eventually loose respect.
How old are You and Your Husband and His Sister/Cousin?
Is the plan for Her to still come live with You when She graduates? I don't think Your Marriage would survive with Sister/Cousin in Your household.
I would seek couples therapy in the hope Hubby can come to see this behavior as a bit bizarre?
Good Luck
Yes this was an arranged marriage
Is the plan for her to marry also??
do you have any recourse about this marriage?
I'm 25 and my husband is 28. His sister is 20. There's still 6 months left for her graduation. Im panicky
Thank you Life360. Actually I was not aware of their relationship from day one. Mine was an arranged marriage. He never mentioned his sister first time he saw me. I got to know about them few weeks before our engagement. It was too late for me to cancel the engagement too
My husband and his sister have that. I planned a dinner and invited the sister and her husband (that she married because she is" too good to be single.") She ate my food, and never once spoke to me.
She's not allowed over at my house anymore. So she invites him out to a restaurant so they are together having a meal. But, afterwards she wants to sit there for hours. The poor waitress is losing money the whole time, but my husband who doesn't like to sit very much won't say a single word about the obnoxious situation.