Can't take it back...

[JosieKat]

Last week my husband and i got into an argument or disagreement, We really don't do it that often, so when it happens sometimes it can hit me the wrong way and i go off. I usually feel the need to leave for awhile because i don't want to argue. Then i come home and get the silent treatment for a couple of days. The next day i ended up calling my sister, my friend, and my mother and venting about it because we seem to have the same argument every couple of months or so. I told them some personal things that i wished i hadn't, now things seem a little weird. I wished i hadn't reacted that way and i'm trying to get a handle on myself. I know that i'm the one responsible for my actions. i guess i just needed to come to a place that was impartial.

[natalile]

lol me to, i'd go mad if it wasn't for this place

[Lucey12]

I know what you mea about the saying things you wish you hadnt. Thats why I vent on here :D

[JosieKat]

I just spent the last hour writing the longest post and it got deleted when i hit send! I guess i'll try again. I appreciate all the reassuring advice. As for why i'm uncomfortable about what was said, it's for both reasons that you mentioned. I've already had that conversation, trying to do damage control but you know when the conversation just doesn't feel the same. That's kinda what's happening. Now i have to ask why and try to fix that. I'm gonna work on the post i lost because i wanted to talk about what happened. I'm still trying to get something worked out there.

[sammy73]

It's tough - when you are in this situation you need someone else to talk to, and it's good that you have your family and friend to turn to.  But I can understand how you may now wish they didn't know the stuff you told them.  Are you uncomfortable because what you told them was very personal, or because it gives a bad impression of your husband that you now wish they didn't have?

You're right, you can't take it back, but it may be worth arranging a chance to chat soon, and mention how you've patched things up with your husband now and all is well, and ask them not to hold anything you told them against him, or indeed you.

[Judy246]

Hi Josie, I don't know of a couple that has not been in this situation, so you are not alone! I think if you are going to confide in someone, whom better than family.  I'm all for family, but  communication is key in a relationship and it's important for you to be able to communicate with your partner and "discuss" problems without them escalating into an argument and the after effect of what was said. If you are aware that in an argument you might say things that you will regret later and react inapropriately, then it's a start...I applaud that your awareness that there has to be a better way to "discuss" issues with your partner and solutions to all the issues in your relationship. Good Luck! Judy

[iam1butterfly]

natalile makes a very good point...
Confiding with those with whom you feel close to may not have been such a bad idea.
I bet that they're probably more understanding and not as judgmental as you would imagine. But, if that "weird" feeling continues to weigh on you, discuss those feelings with them.

[natalile]

if you felt like you could talk to that person, About that issue then it was right 4 u @ the time, Don't worry to much about it,
God i argue all the time & i have no 1 2 talk 2 about them,I don't walk away eva, Ifact i can be just as bad if not worse
You did the wright thing 4 u hun dont beat urself up about it