Some Boyfriends/lovers could not fall asleep next to me, did they just not like me?

[lalila]

I just noticed, it was just 2 guys, but it kind of felt like, well maybe those were the two that didnt love me.  So is that a reason someone cant fall asleep, if they dont love someone?

Even one guy once said that it was his measure of whether he could have a relationship with a girl is if he could fall asleep next to them.  well anyway with that guy he did manage to fall asleep a few times, but i think he always said it towards me, cos sometimes it was hard to fall asleep.

[TTinKKerBBell]

I sorta agree with You, lalila.  Therapy may help You understand the warp but it doesn't get "rid" of the warp - that's on You.  And it's easier to do that with the "tools" You learn in therapy.

[lalila]

I've had some therapy before. I was going to go again to talk to someone, though I don't think it's much different from talking here, it hasn't been. I think sometimes abused ppl understand abuse better emotionally then therapists do. Not like u can be all bright and snap out once uve been through enough therapy. I have an ex who's been in therapy for many many years.

[Londres70]

Your posts are VERY concerning.  Have you tried seeking therapy?