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Starting the divorce process
I can't believe I'm the one writing this. My husband and I want very different things. We have decided to divorce after 10.5 years of marriage. I think we got married too young. While I will always have a soft spot for my husband, we just can't make it work.
Moving on is going to be hard, but we are just 2 very different people. Today is the first day I've felt comfortable telling anyone. I just want to know that I can make it out on the other side of this a stronger person.
Moving on is going to be hard, but we are just 2 very different people. Today is the first day I've felt comfortable telling anyone. I just want to know that I can make it out on the other side of this a stronger person.
I think the calm and responsible way you state what is happening bodes well for you to continue to have a rational take on life through the divorce, and the divorce will probably be something you look back on as having been the right thing to do. Good luck to you.
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This means a lot to me. I spent the day trying to find somewhere else to live. For me this will be the first time I've ever lived alone. I just want to get this process started. Thank God for no drawn out divorce for us.
From your profile it looks like you have a toddler girl. Since you've been married 10.5 years, it appears the very last few once your daughter was born have broken the relationship.
Have you attempted counseling? When a couple has no children and wants a divorce, I always say go for it. You have every right to break up. No one else will be affected.
But now you have a child who will be deeply and profoundly negatively affected. Your daughter will be passed between two households and then have to deal with new partners of her parents who most likely won't see her best interest as a priority.
If the two of you do divorce, I would suggest getting alternate households so your daughter doesn't have to be bounced around, and the two of you will do that instead. So each of you get an apartment, and alternate times when you live with your baby if you're planning to share custody.
Have you attempted counseling? When a couple has no children and wants a divorce, I always say go for it. You have every right to break up. No one else will be affected.
But now you have a child who will be deeply and profoundly negatively affected. Your daughter will be passed between two households and then have to deal with new partners of her parents who most likely won't see her best interest as a priority.
If the two of you do divorce, I would suggest getting alternate households so your daughter doesn't have to be bounced around, and the two of you will do that instead. So each of you get an apartment, and alternate times when you live with your baby if you're planning to share custody.
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No I have 2 nieces I have no kids.
I have spoken with a divorce lawyer. I still am not sure where I'm going to be going. I just need time to figure it out.
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Ah, sweetie. I'm sorry to hear this. I certainly remember you and your sister. Divorce hurts. I'm glad you came here for support hon. You've gotten some good advice from people here on the forum. Marriage can be hard work and sometimes when it doesn't work out, there is a mourning period. And trying to rebuild yourself after years of being with someone is hard. BUT, it's kind of exciting too. You can explore all things you've ever wanted to do or see.
I do think as a couple breaks up, they can begin to do odd things and act strangely. Some of those ups and downs will be better when you don't see each other every day.
Please stay in touch with us and let us know how you are doing. hugs
I do think as a couple breaks up, they can begin to do odd things and act strangely. Some of those ups and downs will be better when you don't see each other every day.
Please stay in touch with us and let us know how you are doing. hugs
He got very creepy this morning and took off. He saidI get nothing. This isn't ok behavoir. I feel scared and lost.
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Have you spoke with a Divorce Attorney about his recent behavior? If not, you should consider it. If you are still living under the same roof, now would be a good time to try out your trial separation period (find an alternative place to live w/ family or friends, if possible). Best Wishes
You absolutely will get through this and be a stronger person for it, more in tune with exactly what you want. So many of us do marry young before we really know exactly what type of person is best for us. I think it's wonderful that you can say on this day that you will always have a soft spot for your ex. Congratulations on your choice to move on and start again. I wish you every success living single and when the time is right , finding the partner that you will grow with and stay with, into your golden years. Stay positive and keep active, maybe join a gym , or swim at the pool and meet new folks. Good luck to you and know you can drop any of us a line, and we'd be happy to hear from you. I hope you keep your thread going, and let know the steps you take. We'll be listening. Liz
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Oh I have 2 gym memberships.
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