Well, I'm not sure what you should do. I think NO man in your life for a while may make things more clear. So far, these guys aren't great as they cheat and lie and did you say the ex (not the man you married, the guy before him) had a baby with someone else? I don't think you are selfish to not take on his child and move him in.
Im confused! So the guy with the kid is your high school sweetheart that texted you in the cab? If this is the guy sounds like you have one thing in common and that is the sex. Relationships need more than just that. If you arent ready to be motherly to this child then you need to get out.
Sweetheart, I hate to agree with the others when it is advice you don't want to hear. But you really need to get grounded in who you are, without all the men. And the clubbing, and the drinking. Lift your sights and make some long-term plans just for you. The ex is really swinging wildly like a rope on a flagpole, he's making babies and being irresponsible and likes to yank your chain. He knows you are making big things in your mind of the relationship and he is manipulating the situation because of your loneliness. Please do some thing just for you. Get going on something that gives you fun that is not drinking and sex. You will find your center if you do, and then you can figure out what kind of guy fits.
Well, then, good luck to you. keep your job and stay on your feet, and you will do fine.
I'm too am having difficulty understanding your English (mostly that there are no periods between sentences, so it's very difficult for me to understand when one subject has ended, and another begun) so it's sounds to me that English may be your 2nd language. From what i can gather though, it sounds like you've made up your mind as to moving in with your high-school boyfriend again and I surely hope that it does work out for you all, as there is a child involved and break ups , even between a parent and step mother can be very hard on a child. Children need consistency, so please be very sure that you and your boyfriend have a good chance if you are to be involved in this child's life. and work toward the longevity that this child so richly deserves. I believe you've said that you cannot conceive your own children, so i hope that your relationship flourishes and you can show your boyfriend's child the respect and love that I hope will come back to you from that child. Children grow up so quickly, and soon you will receive back from this child what you give to them. So, be good to this child and they will, in turn, be good to you when you are older. A step mom can be a huge asset to a child, IF handled correctly. There are many books and articles you can access on the internet that can help you to be the best Step Mom you can be. They used to say that 'kid's don't come with directions, but that is SO UNTRUE. Reading about raising a step child can help you immensely understand this child, and make the transition that they have to make easier (when he/she visits you both). I hope that you put in the effort, and that will help all goes well for all of you.
Maybe you can help me ? You've written this and i don't know what it is you're asking here exactly. It sounds like it's an important question, and i'd like to give you my opinion to try to help, but maybe you could try to explain the question so i can?
"I just started meeting his kid I don’t think am ready for him trying to move the kid and out his name on the house .am I’m being selfish ?
So, you've just started to visit with his child, and you don't think you're ready for your boyfriend to..........
move the kid and out his name on the house?
Are you saying you're not ready for your boyfriend to move his child into yours and your boyfriend's home?
What are you trying to say about "his name on the house?" Does your boyfriend own the home and you moved in with him ? Are you saying if the child moves in , your boyfriend would have to take his name off the ownership papers of the house?
Sorry - please help , i want to understand...