why do I still dream about my ex?

[zari_hdez]

I've posted about dreaming about my ex boyfriend already asking why does it happen. I didn't think I would dream of him again since it has been about a month I don't dream of him, until a couple days ago. Now, i dreamed that I was sitting next to his ex, which is now my bestfriend... & he was trying to flirt with me, hugging me and trying to kiss me but I wouldn't do anything since in the dream I knew that he cheated on me, i knew that he dated my bestfriend, i knew i still had a few feelings for him but i didn't want to show it. We used to hate eachother after the breakup, but now I sometimes give him advice with other girls and we get along now I guess. I just don't understand WHY DO I KEEP DREAMING ABOUT HIM. I seriously need help, people say it's an unresolved problem i have in the relationship but i doin't understand what the problem is.. I just don't get it.

[zari_hdez]

Thank you SO much! People literally always told me it was my mind trying to work something out or telling me there was an unresolved problem i have and that it was why i still keep dreaming about my ex. & that it wouldn't stop until i stop whatever the problem was.  I honestly think that what you just said about us being ' just friends ' not working out, is the unresolved problem.

I don't know, but what you just said actually was the best answer thank you. & yes, i've been single since him for 3 months and planning on staying like that.

[Londres70]

Agree with the above posters.

I think you are reading too much into these dreams you are having.  

[nursegirl6572]

I wanted to add....PLEASE be very careful trying to maintain a "friend" type of relationship with your ex.  The truth is, the VAST majority of people just cannot make that work, it's VERY hard to change that kind of dynamic.  Plus, new partners will often feel uncomfortable, so you have to be sensitive to that.

Just thinking out loud.

[nursegirl6572]

A lot of people think dreams "mean something", and that's fine.  I personally don't.  They're just our minds processing common thoughts/ideas in a different way than if we were awake.  We commonly dream about current things in our lives, because that's where our minds are at.

You're describing something where it sounds like you think your dreams are predicting the future.  Again, some people believe that stuff, but I'm a realist, and I don't buy it.  I DO think that the MORE attention and focus you give this, the more it will occur.

Good luck!

[zari_hdez]

Hello, thank you. But i mainly find it really weird how i just dreamed about him a couple of dqys ago and just now about 3 hours ago we hung out for a little. Like, everytime I dream about him, a couple of days later or something we somehow get in contact. Like if my dream makes me prepare and now i will get in contact with him sooner or later. I once dreamed my ex was cheating on me, i googled it & it told me maybe I was the one that had thoughts of cheating on him and probably was. Turns out, the next day, i did cheat on him . i didn't mean to, but he was a player too and would flirt with girls .& thats how I met the ex that I always dream about. Pretty weird... I think dreams do mean something.

[zari_hdez]

Well, i rarely even think about him. Not much and it's really weird .

[mommyofbeautifulgirls]

I agree with special mom.. they also say that the last thing or person your thinking about before going to sleep is what you end up dreaming about or if your thinking too much about it or I guess it's because your the last thing/person they were thinking about..

[specialmom]

Hi there and welcome.  Well, our dreams are . . .  just dreams.  Sometimes it is our subconscious working something out and sometimes it is just a memory or thought that drives a dream.  They will diminish and eventually stop all together most likely.

There is no deep meaning in dreaming about an ex or anyone else.  Or I'd be destined to be with Brad Pitt as I have had some dreams about him.  :>)