9 months

[Bree_05_15]

So today my son is 9 months old , things were getting better with my husband until recently im beyond stressed im still working 2 jobs about 50 hours. Week nd hes not doing much he hasnt found a new job he makes 6 $  an hr which isnt working for us we bring in bout 2100 a month things r tough are rent is 750 not including utilites diapers baby stuff i feel like im stuck right now i was going to see if anyone would reccommend me quiting one job so i can have time to seek something that will be better i knowone can tell me i should do somesomething but maybe an opinion? I had a meet nd greet with someone from costco today so im hoping things work out nd i get a job there.thr only issue im having is i hate when.my hubby tells me hes going to spend alot on me then only spends 5! I knoe its all bout the thought that counts but ive spent 100 $ on him pretty much every 2 weeks nd he gets upset if i get my nails done once a month its like when it comes to him its very important .im usually not the type of person who cares if i get anything as long as i can give so idk y i care so much idk if its cuz i havent done anything for me in a while besides a morning coffee

[Bree_05_15]

I think it different if he had more money it would be alot easier ! He makes under min wage cuz they supply tools and he never graduated high school so its hard to find something til je goes back to get his ged.:(

[specialmom]

Hi there.  Oh sweetie, you are such a responsible young lady.  I think right now, you have to keep working both jobs because you can't afford the down time of income if you quit one of them.  

But . . .   what's up with your husband?  This is a big problem.  Why is he lacking in ambition and wanting to contribute.  He should have two (or three) jobs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  I, in all honesty, would sit down and tell him that he has to help more financially.  that he needs to find another job on top of the one he has or did you say he isn't working at all.  Six dollars an hour is below min. wage!  

Whew, I just re read your post.  Ha.  I didn't realize that the question is about how much money he spends on you and you spend on him.  Well, he doesn't have any money to spend.   And you don't either.  And you have a baby.  I know one Christmas, my husband and I chose to not give each other a single Christmas gift so we could get what my sons wanted for Christmas.  I got NOTHING.  He got NOTHING.  But our kids were happy and our bills were paid.  

In all honesty, I'd worry not a single bit about that.  And I'd worry that your boyfriend is turning out to be one of those men that are layabouts and don't do what they need to in order to help support their family.  You're doing all you can and trying to better your situation but him?  I'd be LIVID each and every day I went to two jobs and my husband wasn't helping.  If I made a ton of money and he was the stay at home dad and I came home to a clean house, dinner on the table, kids taken care of well . . .  that is different.  But in your situation, it sounds like you really need income and he needs to get off his butt and work harder.  

Does he have any skills?  If not, can he go get one?  community college or trade school?  Electricians and plumbers make lots of money---  yes, they work hard though and I don't know if your husband has any desire to do that.  But if he checks it out---  they have all kinds of grant money and tuition assistance to help pay for it.  I'd seriously consider that it he isn't working, he needs to be in a trade training program.  

and this is what I'd worry about rather than gifts.  Wrap up some trade school brochures and financial aid forms for him for Valentines Day.  THAT would be the best gift to you both, I promise!!!

PS:  No feelings are invalid though.  I hear what you are saying that you wish he were generous and thoughtful with you.  I think it is fair to wish for that.  Do you think it would be different if he had more money?