what should i do in this relantionship? is it worth carrying on?

[yellow12345]

im 22 and hes 24 been together 2 years weve had alot of arguments we have them everyday.
i dont work im on esa and he does as a cleaner he always says i need work but im finding it diffcult because ive never had work he rubs that in everyday.im an emotional person he has a temper which is kinda controlled by weed.
he has been nasty towards me he says he cant controll his temper and that i derserve what ever happeneds to me because ive pissed him off but i dont do anything i said i am myself your meant to love me for who i am.i live in a flat i recently had to give up my cat because he didnt like her which heartbroke me.even if i do everything he says its the other things that wind him up like he says im not ambitious in the bedroom which i dont understand what he means? or i need to be more affectionate but i give him cuddles and kisses but he says thats not good enuff the bedroom stuff is bad at the moment because im either to tired or i know that its gonna hurt so when we try my vagina burns but i dont know why or i feel bad that he cant do it with me so i say its not hurting when really it burns this happends alot so thats why i just didnt wanna have sex i even bought him sexy lingere stuff toplease him because he kept  watching porn but hiding it from me i mean i watch it but prob for different reasons he hates me watching it because he thinks its cheating when hes watching it for watch girls strip off annoys me he recently went out clubbing with new friends bare in mind i have no friends only my family rarely see them too because he gets annoyed that ive gone out :/ so he went clubbing got really drunk spent all his wages and talked about how he talked to girls or what not or days hes gonna go to a strip club i less care recently because sick of the crap.everytime i go out its a constant battle or everything is about money. i pay for alot bills house hold items he only gets 100 at min but soon to be more. he talks about the future how he wants a car and if i meantion it he will be like u dont need a car you cant afford it when i get more money than him i think he doesnt want me to be happy. when i try he ruins it or says i dont have skill to drive which again makes me feel like **** i have a domestic voilence counciller but they can only do so much. everytime we have an argument he gets so angry and leaps towards me shouting in my face and i crawl into a ball begging he doesnt hit or shout at me more i live on ground floor which sometimes makes it easier to escape by running off ive had cops to mine alot because when i get angry i scream,he always bringing up girls into the picture i know alot of jealously im just sick of him never happy or what ever i do he wants more he says hes not the person he used to be anymore. always talks about getting a house with his name on it and i know flat in mine i just scared of what will happen when his name on it if we argue then what.? he has 2 sides ones nasty then next min really nice saying sorry wanting things to be okay and acting silly with me im confused we had an argument yesterday becase he said im not ambitious in the bedroom or wanting to do different things i dont like my body so im not confident enuff to do what these porn stars do affecting the relationship he wanted it to end then because i dont have work thats another thing i have no help,he hates my family when we argue he says hes gonna kill me theres alot more but i dont want him to find out ive been typing on here. im bored of my life i go out to see my grandma its like hell constant texting or constant accusing me of things i haven't done or my family cant come on the street cuz he will play hell what am i meant to do is this relationship far over he has things to work on too my family say you have to get out before anything worse hap pends physically but i think the worst has already been done only left now is to be killed ive been pushed,kicked,strangled thrown about even with hair smacked my head and if i say no to sex he will go crazy he thinks its my fault what do i do?prob end of loosing family at this rate so can anyone help me?

[TTinKKerBBell]

His temper is controlled by weed??!!  ..... enough said as far as I'm concerned!


BUT THEN
You go on to say He DOES have a temper and that He emotionally and physically abuses You AND You say He's threatened to kill You??

My question is:

......and You love Him why??  Why do You wait around for Him to possibly "kill you"??

I agree with Your Family - You should leave BEFORE something worse happens.

GoodLuck

[nursegirl6572]

Just a friendly tip, try adding some punctuation (periods, commas) and even paragraph breaks, especially in LONG posts.  To be honest, your OP was hard to read.

I agree with the above ladies.  I don't know why you've put up with this treatment for so long, but I wouldn't put up with it for another day.

Why aren't you working?  Have you been schooled in any kind of trade?  Do you have aspirations to go to college?  It sounds a little like you've allowed your BF to be the caregiver, and you've become dependent on him.  You need to start working toward finding your own independence, working toward your future goals.

Best of luck!

[RockRose]

I agree with SM.

I see you live in the UK - so I don't know how it works over there as far as employment and housing.  I'm always surprised,  actually  about how the government seems to control ever single aspect of your lives down to employment and applying for housing.  And I also see you're on subsidized housing so I don't know how that works either.

But I agree it's fundamental to spend some time working,  and supporting yourself completely.  If you don't do that you end up mired in depression and stagnation.

[specialmom]

Hi and welcome.  Well, I'm very sorry you are in this situation.  My advice to you is serious and something I'd do right away.  LEAVE.  You fight every single day.  That isn't what a good relationship is.  AND then you say he is physically hurting you.  Really, you need to leave like yesterday.

Think if you can get some kind of job training though as it is important to support ourselves.  That is really a fundamental part of life and I encourage you to make sure you are working towards financial independence.  Job training, community college and just getting a job is essential.  good luck