does my pregnant girlfirend hate me? i need big help :(

[Raydezy]

me and my fiance used to be so loving we moved in together pretty quick we done everything together and loved each other more than anything, we decided to try for a baby and looked forward to marrage and being a family, she fell pregnant and is 3 months pregnant yesterday, the last 3 months have been so hard, it seems all her love has died she wants nothing to do with me anymore she packed my bags and threw me out 5 days ago, i havent seen her for 3 days i rang her phone its turned off i ring her mams, she answers but has told me not to ring no more i havent seen her for 3 days i told her today how much this is killing me and i havent eat or slept, she told me she has been fine :( ,its as if she just turned her feelings off over night and there is nothing i can do or say to change her mind she says she doesnt want no one else and we wont split up completely i can still see her now and then but i can never move back in with her, she says its not her hormones making her like this (but i think it is as she was never like this before) she says she does love me but she cant stand to be around me i cant talk to her or she will walk out i cant kiss, cuddle her nothing, when i tell her its upsetting me she laughs in my face, she says she doesnt know why she feels like this she just feels it,she wont go nowhere with me, not even to the shop, she dumped me on valentines day and didnt care about her presents or look at her card, i have tried everything i can to make her happy but it seems she is getting angrier every day, when will this stop i want my loving caring gf back, i love her soooooooo much i know it must be hormones she cant just fall out of love with me like that we were soooooo close, its killing me has anyone pls got any advice on why she feels so angry, she seems to have no interest in the pregnancy at all, and doesnt even want people to know im dying to tell people, i know its not her and it must be something to do with her hormones or something as we both wanted this soooo much, she was never ever angry i never seen her angry once before she got pregnant, will this anger and hate wear off will she ever come back to me, we went to our 3 month scan and i really thought it would put a smile on her face, her only reaction was to say to me "im suprised its still alive", it seems everything she says to me is aimed at breaking me, and im completely broken, if it is hormones when will they settle down a little? it as if she went from being loving, affectionate and caring, to having nothing for me. It's as if all of her love for me died, and it's killing me inside,  I love this woman more than anything, and can't wait to be the father of her child, but I don't know if I can handle the hurt I feel on the inside anymore. This is breaking my heart, and I am a complete disaster, can pregnancy really be this difficult? What can I do? I am completely lost.

[daisy699]

SORRY TO BE BLUNT.... but there is waaaay more going on w/ her than "being hormonal"!! I can say this b/c I am 6mos pregnant (by accident) w/ our second and have not once been so cruel,cold,or unkind??U sau YOu BOTH wanted to get pregnant but then this!! The only thing I can think of (being an addict /recovered) is drugs...why on earth would she say she's "surprised" her baby is still alive???that is a big red flag to me is she doing something to harm herself and baby taking anything??Or has she ever cheated and is very confused or guilted and just can't come out and tell you?/There HAS to be more to this, this makes no sense and cannot be blamed just on pregnancy or hormonal...like I said I am very pregnant and very hormonal not cruel to ppl esp. my spouse!!!!!! If things were so bliss why would this be happening!!And if you know for sure you've done nothing wrong give her a few?????'s as to whether this baby is yours ,if she wants to be w/ u and to get her **** togehter and stop being so cruel and emotionally abusive to you!!Plain and simple you now need to think of you and have some self worth NOONE deserves this treatment esp from your "love"?? I would be ?ing this who;e relationship and if this is really how you want the rest ofYOUR life to be!!!Sorry if this sounds cruel I'm just shootin from the hip and telling you how I as a pregnant woman see it...

[imanaddict]

I did this to my husband as well (not as brutal though!) with our last child. I resented him for me getting pregnant. I had just had a baby and she was 3 months old when I found out I was pregnant again. I had my tubes tied but somehow still managed to get pregnant. I guess I blamed my husband for that but of course it wasn't his fault. My husband and I are VERY close and VERY much in love, but I shunned him. I had no rhyme or reason, he never treated me bad, always treated me like a queen, but yet I couldn't stand him. Whether or not your girlfriend thinks it's not her hormones, I guarantee it is! If you have given her no reason whatsoever to act this way (cheating, being disrespectful, etc) then most likely it is the hormones talking. Give her some space to collect her thoughts and feelings and whatever you do, DO NOT push her! She will most likely come around once everything settles down.

One thing that disturbed me is the "I'm surprised it's still alive" comment. Do you think there is a possibility that she lied about being pregnant and doesn't want you to find out? I can't imagine why a soon to be mother would say something so horrible?

[Judy246]

This happened with my one of my sisters. When she became pregnant, she couldn't stand not only the sight of her husband for no reson, but she said he smelled and hormones all over the place.  She would cry, get angry and was so sensitive that you look at her and she would cry. It's the hormones. His cologne made her vomit, yes, vomit!   I recommend that you back off, get yourself taken care of with a place to stay and surround yourself with family and good friends. This too shall pass. If nothing happened between you and her and she is responding this way, step back and just let her be. You do have every right to make sure your baby is healty and taken care of, but just let the situation settle and then discuss with her what is ahead . This is your baby and need to be in the baby's life, but for now, just back off, give her time and everything else will fall into place. Good Luck, Judy

[penswriter]

it should be posted in the relationship forum.

[Raydezy]

im sorry pls delete this im new to the site and posted in the wrong forum i have reposted my question in the 18 - 34 forum sorry for the inconvenience