frugal vs cheap

[1950flower]

i am learning, over the course of 1 yr, the length of my relationship that my companion is extremely cheap.  in fact, he is the cheapest person i have ever known in my life.  i am 60  he 67 and i don't think this will change.  just a few tidbits so far...when going to a dance he told me not to order ant drinks as they are too expensive and he was bring water in the car and we could drink that if we got thirsty....the soft drinks were  $1.50 each.........he goes to stores in the winter and hangs out so he can save his heat bill.....he has a wood burning stove and has to fool with it all winter to save gas for heat....his house gets so cold at times.......he always says we will do this or that but never do  it would cost money...those dances are only $6.00 per person  with free snacks  except for the drinks of course.  yesterday he said he was wanting fudge but there was none around to buy...we happened to go to a farm market and they happened to be selling fudge...no deal..he wouldn't even get me a little fudge cause too expensive...he used the excuse he didn't need it, u know  too many calories......should i overlook this  or move on  it is getting to me more and more.....thank u for any replys    1950flower

[wannabefree330]

Have you discussed this issue with him?  I wouldn't kick him to the curb just yet, but I'd tell him it bothers you.  Is there a reason he has to be so cheap?  Is his income such that he can't splurge on soft drinks.....and heat?  I think he's being cheap, not just frugal.  If he doesn't change his ways a bit, I'd move on.  You are at an age where you should be enjoying every bit of life and not worrying about a 1.50 soft drink!

[jo929]

At his age i do not think that he will change, it sounds like he wants you to pay for it, can he afford to go out or, is this his way of being frugal, if he has the money, and will not spend it on you get rid of him, and i would tell him to loosen up, that when one plays they have to pay  he sounds like a typical tightwad , and that if he does not feel you are worth a little better treatment , that he needs to stay home by himself     luck  jo