almost cheating guilt

[shiva94]

was dating my gf for 3 months and was completely in love with her....went for a trip abroad and met this girl who was the tour guide ....she started liking me...i enjoyed her company but told her about my gf and that i couldnt cheat on her....i had to stay wih her for the next 3 days but i did not keep my distance as i was suppose to .....hung out with her till late night and even passed out in her room knowing she likes me ...never kissed her because i always knew i wouldnt cheat but i liked the attention....i led the girl on and towards the end she came forward to kiss me and i moved away but in her mind she thinks she kissed me....from my side i know i did not kiss her but obviously i feel guilty about the whole situation....when i came back the entire thing came in light to my gf and i told her everything and told the other girl as well that i couldnt talk to her and she shouldnt obsess over me. The problem is whether i should have told my gf about me passing out in her room because it gets the wrong ideas in mind. Its been 10 months now and ive felt bad about this ever since. I have changed completely ever since and have been the best i could..but i want to get over this guilt of mine!

[specialmom]

You look at it as a valuable lesson that has made you a wiser man. That's a positive thing.  View it that way and do your best to be a good boyfriend. good luck

[shiva94]

no she wont and its long done as well ....but i keep thinking about it! how do i get over that?

[specialmom]

Oh, you haven't told her yet.  I misunderstood.  You are asking if you should tell her.  Well, is there a chance she could find out?

[shiva94]

Thanks a lot...this reallly did make me feel better and yes ive done everything that you said but i just feel ill lose everything with my gf if i tell her about the crashing at night incident because it will definitely seem wrong from all angles even though it wasnt...i dont know how to get over that bit...ive told her that i led her on and that i needed attention but keeping in mind the kind of person she is i decided not to tell her that bit because i know it will end everything.

[specialmom]

Hi there and welcome.  Well, sometimes we do stupid things.  :>)  We all do and we all hopefully learn from our mistakes.  You learned some valuable things from this situation.  You are vulnerable to making poor choices when in need of attention.  Know this about yourself and don't let that win out next time.  Stay stronger.  Also, think about why you need the attention.  You also learned that something that was frivolous and unimportant to you could have caused you to lose something big in your life, a girlfriend you care for.  Don't let that happen a second time.  

You've already told her and I presume she has forgiven you and the relationship is continuing.  So, let it go.  See it as a positive in that you are now new and improved with new wisdom.  good luck