why are men so different

[krisnile]

My boyfriend got a heart of gold,but he can push my buttons...I don't like to be told what I can do and what I can't!!! Scene I've been seeing him I have city ties with almost everybody I use to hang around.I have a guy friend name Randell his prilized from chest down,he was shot 12 years ago,anyway I use to carry him to doctor or just get out of the house and when he called me he was hard to get off the phone with,cause his board I guess my point is now he don't want me even talking to him! Like what can he do ( u know) ...I don't like it when someone tries to control me, my question is should I need this now or keep trying to make it work?

[krisnile]

I'm trying there's so much going on in my life write know!! I need r
To stop and take care of me, but dealing with chemo and depression, family esuces, hard to focus on just myself,,,,,

[kellygirll]

ooohhhh i thought you were in recovery or trying to be sorry

[krisnile]

Thanks u guys I know this don't have anything to do with pills but needed to vent..thanks for all the advise.

[weaver71]

Personally, anyone or anything that distracts from recovery should be cut out. I say cut, because it hurts to do it sometimes. If it isn't distracting you, then I would say it's a subjective decision, but you are here posting about him. What do you think would help you focus on recovery and little else, that is what I had to do?

[kellygirll]

and my son lived this too it scared him for life he ran into him one day not to long ago in a store and started to shake uncontrollably and he's 26 years old my heart broke when he told me this so please it may not seem bad now and I'm sure he's real sweet but trust me i may not know a lot about recovery but i know EVERYTHING about being an abused woman

[kellygirll]

end it now unfortunately i was with a guy for 3 years he was 8 years younger than me  and first it started out with the control thing and i thought it was because he loved me then it was the jealously/possessivness thing again i thought it was cuz he loved me sooooo much then the verbal abuse because i could do no better than him then the hitting and it was cuz i deserved it i believed all these lies it took me a long time to get away from  he beat me tortured me did unmentionable things to me for 3 years and  for a year this guy he stalked me i went back several times got the crap beat out of me daily i finally get myself together got real tired of this treatment and left him for good put myself thru school and moved on granted i did end up back with him three years later but he NEVER laid a hand on me or called me one single name cuz i wouldn't allow it i was a different person i knew i deserved better and wouldn't tolerate any less so please end it now don't know how long you have been with him but he is very insecure with himself and doesn't trust you obviously  and it has nothing to do with you run girl RUN it will not get better unless he 1) admits he has a problem and 2) gets himself into heavy duty counceling to work on him self  it may not seem bad now with just the control thing but i promise you this is what will happen if you stay i PROMISE and I've been thru this same thing a few times after him and before it didn't stop till i worked on myself and realized i deserved someone who treats me very well and thats when i found my wonderful husband who would never dream of doing anything of those things above sorry this is so long but it breaks my heart when women allow themselves to be treated so horribly please please end the relationship now

[krisnile]

Should I end this now...sorry