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is there still hope
My bf told me yesterday he wasn't happy that its not going to work out and than hours later he told me to just give him space n time that we maybe able to work out but he Dont know I just texted him told him I loved n missed him no answer but he did answer me on if we was going to be OK he said idk to gibe him space n time for now
If you have the continuing pattern of guys backing off, take some time off guys and find yourself. Get involved in something that really interests you and is fun, maybe see a counselor, and don't be mooning around after guys and driving them crazy with your needs. Neediness is a turn-off for men. You won't seem so if you have other interests that are fulfilling to you.
Thank you I needed this this guy was differant I tried someone who is differant than who I normally go after he says I talk yo much and talk a lot about myself my work truck etc said we might be OK but I want something real and not half azz
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Sound like a bit of deflection here, aren't you talking about the same guy you've been complaining about for years now?
No new one
Sounds like he's probably checking someone else out currently, and he'll get back to you when he has time. May take a couple of weeks for him to fit you both into his schedule, or maybe he'll get enough from another girl to end it, not cuz your not as good a person not as pretty etc, but because it's new to him, and her, and he' hasn't blown the relationship in the honeymoon stage. You should make sure you use condoms with a guy like this, always, and get yourself checked regularly for STD's.
This is my reply from your post from last year at this time.
I'm glad you can admit that it is one sided. There's a saying ," this will go nowhere, fast" This one sided relationship is nowhere. You being in it, is nowhere. I know you may be lonely, but it's not good for your soul to be with someone who doesn't care enough to make an effort. It hurts you more to always be second, than if you were alone, You will not find any other, until you can leave this one and get on with your life, so i sincerely hope that you do go and speak to a therapist. Otherwise, you will likely find yourself in the same exact position as you were in April 2016, April 2017, Let's make Easter 2018 look a whole lot different for you. But it will take work and a concentrated effort to get it done. Please know you can send me a message anytime and i'll reply within a day. No worries. You don't have to do this alone. I'm here for you. We're friends for a reason. I've been where you are, but right now i'm living with an amazing caring loving gentle man who puts me first always. Who looks after me when i'm sick, who cares 24/7. That's what you need. You have to work your way to it and deserve it. First things first, please try therapy. and please, try to resist another booty call., that's leading nowhere.
This is my reply from your post from last year at this time.
I'm glad you can admit that it is one sided. There's a saying ," this will go nowhere, fast" This one sided relationship is nowhere. You being in it, is nowhere. I know you may be lonely, but it's not good for your soul to be with someone who doesn't care enough to make an effort. It hurts you more to always be second, than if you were alone, You will not find any other, until you can leave this one and get on with your life, so i sincerely hope that you do go and speak to a therapist. Otherwise, you will likely find yourself in the same exact position as you were in April 2016, April 2017, Let's make Easter 2018 look a whole lot different for you. But it will take work and a concentrated effort to get it done. Please know you can send me a message anytime and i'll reply within a day. No worries. You don't have to do this alone. I'm here for you. We're friends for a reason. I've been where you are, but right now i'm living with an amazing caring loving gentle man who puts me first always. Who looks after me when i'm sick, who cares 24/7. That's what you need. You have to work your way to it and deserve it. First things first, please try therapy. and please, try to resist another booty call., that's leading nowhere.
I think it is time to say goodbye to this relationship. It is only causing you heartache and that isnt what love is supposed to be. The more you bug him now the more he is going to pull away. Have you given any thought to seeing a counselor? You need to regain some self esteem and realize that someone cant make you happy. Happiness comes from within.
From your previous post, I think he really has been trying to tell you all along that for him it is over. At least, assume it is. If he suddenly changes his mind, he will come find you. But don't be so undignified as to be bugging him, you will just sound like a pest to him.
When someone says to give space, give space. Don't text him and say you love and miss him and ask if you are going to be OK.
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