I really need advice..

[Stephanyjonathan]

I'm 18 & my Ex-boyfriend & I had been going out for two in a half years I have known him my whole life gettingarried in March. Christmas day we broke up and it was all bad. The next day he moved to Arizona.. I havent talked to him at all.. The problem now is that there is a huge possibility that I am pregnant. Should I tell him or just let him be...

He cheated on me multiple times but I always forgave him aside from the cheating he always told me everything all the people he slept with etc. it got to be a lot of me & I ended up leaving to cali for a month and slept with someone.. Except I never told him I always denied it. He would always ask me and I would deny it until finally I told him.. He wasnt mad because I cheated he was mad because I didnt tell him when he asked.

I'm confused and if somebody would just advise me or give me some words of wisdome i'd truly apreciate it..

[Nighthawk61]

I find it really weird to be discussing who you two slept with at all? All I hear is that he wants to talk about his sexual escapades and he wants you to talk about yours. I don't get it. But, yeah, this is really about whether or not you're pregnant right?

[kim698]

Hun honestly I think he is a player... Y is he angry at yu for sleeping with someone else when he does it all the time? I honestly dont think he would change.. A player is a player. I understand your hurt but if he cheated once, cheated twice he might just do it again.

[specialmom]

I agree too.  I'm hoping this is all an unnecessary conversation in that you find out you are not pregnant.  There is nothing to say to him until you are.  Clearly you two had enough issues that a marriage would have been very difficult to sustain----  so, again, hopefully it will be a negative result for the test.  And if it is a yes, you'll need to establish paternity after the baby is born.  Lots of luck, go take that test!

[Londres70]

Agree with the above posters.

[AnnieBrooke]

It sounds like the drama is appealing to you, but in your shoes I would let it drop.  Time to figure out a better way to have a relationship than all this cheating and forgiving, guess what, some people never cheat and never have to forgive, if that sounds boring to you then maybe you need time off from relationships for a while, to use for figuring out why you like that kind of relationship.  

This guy is not father material, even if you are pregnant and a DNA test shows that it is his child.  You will need him for child support, as Life mentions, and can get him for it, but you do not need him in your life or the child's life.  He's a cheater, cheaters are not good partner material and unfortunately not much of daddy material either.

Don't use the "strong possibility" you are pregnant as bait for more communication.  You'll look back at this and realize that him leaving was a good thing, if you will only stick with it.

[Life360_Dave]

Wait to see if your pregnant if your not the then i would look for someone else. You guys are so used to eachother, your relationship makes not sense. Hes out cheating and you cheated and hes only mad because you did not tell him!

If you are pregnant, then hold him accountable financially for the babies support. The long arm of the law can reach from state to state.

[RockRose]

First,  find out if you're pregnant.  If you're not,  you can just go on with your life.  If you are,  then it's time to make the decisions in your post.