lust for an old friend

[27goldencypress]

i have a partner who has been lying to me and has been seeing other women but hasnt been in physical contact with them and i avoid it by wanting to badly have sex with an old fling of mine. is this a good payback even though i dont have to say anything and just lie behind his back too.

[seattlemom2plus]

The relationship has already been damaged so I agree with brice1967, if you and your partner are wanting two different things then it would be good to separate so that you don't continue to hurt one another.  If the behavior continues and then is also carried out by you as well, it only leads to further anger/guilt and less of a chance of having a normal healthy relationship.

[brice1967]

I personally think it is natural to want to "get even" so to speak.  And the truth is, the old me would probably encourage you to do just that.  What I've learned, and unfortunately not noticed until recently is, even when you do get retribution, if you have a conscious.... getting retribution comes back to bite you in the hind quarters.

It really is best to handle this the right way.  Either you split the sheets accordingly, or you have a nice sit down and decide to work on this together.  In the end you'll know that you did everything you could to make this right.  If it doesn't work, at least you tried.  If it does work, there's your proof that hard work does pay off!

Good luck either way!

[rebbecca]

i understand how u feel bc when someone hurts u , u want them 2 hurt the same way if not worse. betrayal *****

[27goldencypress]

that is true dont know why i think like that for? pretty stupid, but thankyou for the advice

[rebbecca]

i think the truth will come out n the end. i dont think 2 wrongs will make it right. good luck

[AnnieBrooke]

You're better off ending it than playing retribution games.