really need some advice and have no one else to turn to :(

[Crazylilthing]

I've been with the same man for over a year now, hes almost 33 and im almost 21... in the beginning of our relationship i was a bit crazy, drank every night, loved to party, ect. i did alot of things im not so proud of, but never cheated on him.he eventually got me out of that lifestyle and things got better.. i did however talk to my sons father on more than one occasion and things went beyond the point they should have a few times. he lives almost 2000 miles away so everything between him and i was done via phone/email. my boyfriend found out each time it happened but we got past it and remained together. throughout our whole relationship my boyfriends sister and her son haved lived with him. and they have a very odd connection. the child calles him daddy, and they act as if theyre married. they share finances, go out to eat together, ect. thats always been a touchy subject with me but ive tried to get past it and am now currently living with them for the 3rd time... babysitting him during the day while they both work................ i actually even up and left him because of the sister situation and i seriously though something sexual was going on between them... and went back to my ex states away to try and work things out for our child's sake , ended up staying there 3 weeks, found out he had been meeting up with girls offline and left him and came right back to my current boyfriend. him and i did have sex (if thats what you want to call it :/) lasted all of 30 secends and me asking him to stop... the love just wasnt there and he knew it. and my bf knows every single aspect of the whole situation.. that was over 3 months ago andi havent talked to him since, and dont plan on it. since ive been back ive noticed my boyfriend acting very odd and had a very bad feeling and one day i was on his PC and noticed it was still logged into his email acct and so i opened it up and found out he had been talking to other females and had tons of nude pictures from all of them. i was devistated and confronted him and he blew it off like it was nothin, apologising for not telling me females sent him random pictures. he asked me to forgive and forget because of the things ive done to him in the past and so ive been trying.. he even deleted his fb account and email acct he was using. but made a new one and said hed give me the password.. but never has. even though he has my fb pass and email pass :/ i know he talked so other females and im deathly afraid hes still doing the same things behind my back but im petrified to confront him and i dont know what to do :( he took psycology and hes very smart and is always a step ahead of me in everything.. its so hard to talk to him because he always has an answer for everything and its justifiable.. but hardly makes sence.. and the whole sister thing is eating me alive. everywhere we go she goes... and he refused to make her find her own place even though shes 36 years old and has a great paying job.... please help me :((((!!!!!!! i love him with all my heart but i dont want to waste my time if hes just skrewing me over :(

[Londres70]

Sounds like way too much drama, weird and unhealthy and in my opinion you should leave this man and his sister behind ASAP.

All the best.

[RockRose]

Crazy, it's not your insecurities that are telling you he's conversing with naked girls, it's your brain telling you that.  He has a new facebook account that he won't give you the password for.

I don't know what the deal is with his sister,  but you can count that he won't ever make her leave unless she develops a relationship of her own,  and it doesn't sound like she's going to do that.  

You're so young.  You have your whole life in front of you - don't tie yourself down to this guy with a really odd relationship with his sister.

[sweetpea03]

I think you need to give yourself some time to grow up still and just spend some time being single. When things got tough with your bf you ran off to your ex, which was a very immature thing to do, to be completely honest. It's not healthy to be in that kind of relationship, which you have now. Your bf has no trust in you after you took off to your ex and hangs it over your head as he does things that are unhealthy for the relationship as well. It's just not a good relationship. Age gap relationships can work, but this one just does not seem to be one of them. Why not spend some time being single and figure out exactly what you want. You really should be with a person who shares the same goals and values, which does not seem to be the case right now. Learn to stand on your own two feet and prepare for your future. It's not healthy to keep running back and forth between your ex and bf. Just be single for a while and focus more on your son, rather than the drama in these messed up relationships.

[Crazylilthing]

Yes thats correct.. But what if its my own insecurities and he's not still talking to other woman? Its a very awkward situation but I love him with all my heart and can seriously see myself marrying him someday ... If he ever makes her leave :/

[Kayannaboo]

The constant going back and forth cannot be healthy for either of you and obviously if you cheat on this man he's going to feel like he has some points on you. It sounds a bit like you are not so sure what you want and I would suggest that you figure it out before going any deeper with this man. About the sister thing I cannot give my opinion that if for sure there is something sexual going on from what you posted he could just very well be close to his sister...that's it.

[RockRose]

I'm having a hard time sorting this out,  which boyfriend you're talking about when you write.

You were living with this older man and his sister,  and you left and went back to your ex because of the sister thing.

When you got to your ex's place,  you attempted to have sex with him once and it didn't work out.  Meanwhile,  you find out he's meeting up with girls online.

So you go back to your current boyfriend and his sister,  and he too is doing the online thing with girls but you're in love with him anyway despite the weird sister thing and the online naked girls thing,  that he's still doing.  

Did I get that right?

You don't need either of them - you need to keep in contact with the ex because he's the father of your child,  but move on from the older man and his sister and online porn.  You're too young for him,  and his relationship is weird.