me being bi

[cowboy20022002]

I dont undstand why if  a lady loves me and care for me that she can not exsept me being bi it has been 4 yrs since i been with a man

[PrettyKitty1]

There is no backing up the theory that if you are raised by gay parents you will be gay. Right hun? How about those kids raised by heterosexual parents who turn out to be gay? On the discovery health channel there are shows which capture this topic very frequently. Enterviews have been made, and those children raised by gay parents are both proud and heterosexual. I don't know if being gay is mental or related to genes. You cannot just say that children raised by gay parents will be gay. It's not realistic.

Peace...lol

[lonewolf07]

All I can say is that we don't agree and that's not a problem.  There are a lot of things I want to say but will refrain.  Not insults either, just quotes from numerous studies but now is not the time.  I wouldn't mind some proof - references from texts, journals, etc. - to back up your argument.  If you want to do that, I'll do the same.  If not that's fine.

[SeriousSam]

First of all let us establish a few things.  

THe point of whether someone is loving was not raised.

I do not disapprove of gay parents adopting or raising kids AFTER the age of five due to some very important processes.

Gay men make the very best shock troops the world has ever known for the last 3 thousand years or more.  This general has to do with some very deep natural instincts for personal survival or well being that have been atrophied.

I know several homosexual foster parents who took in very young kids (under five) who all of their kids turned out gay.  Well and good but not necessarily the best for a society long term wise.  

Ideally yes all parents are loving but all things being equal parents are first and foremost templates for their children.  I am sure their were loving Jim Jones cultists, branch davidians, nazis etc..  and were they better than child beating, rapists of course they were.  Were they the best role models my opinion is no they aren't.  Why?

They are not the patterns a stable society can be modeled on.  As natural abberrations they are a welcome part of society.  My niece is a third daughter to me and she knows that I don't care what the sex of her partner is. Ditto with my other relatives.  Heck whem my cousin came out of the closet he was shocked that I was the first one who accepted him.

However if you say you are bi, and you are marrying someone of the opposite sex you are essentially saying you will never be, or consider yourself 100% satisfied with your partner in bed and psychologists tell us that sex is a microcosm of the relationship.  Ergo the marriage will persistently have an added level of instability in a culture that only gives a marriage about a 30% chance.

There is a bit more to it than that but... You get the general idea.

[lonewolf07]

I just re-read the last part of your post.  Personally, I would rather of parents - gay or straight - who acted in a loving way towards each other (and me) than straight (or gay) parents who fought all the time and were abusive to each other and their children.  Gay and lesbians can fight and be nasty too.  With respect to parenting, the most important things are loving, nurturing and caring for the child/children.  Sexual preferences IMHO take second place to parenting.

[lonewolf07]

I am NOT comparing her to a racist.  I am saying that some of the arguments she uses about gays and lesbians are similar to those used by racists - add classists, agists, etc.  All the "isms" have a common denominator - I'm sure you can guess what that is  = )

[PrettyKitty1]

I know of many children raised by gays since birth. Not one of them have said they would rather have a different life. I don't agree with those who think gays can't be good parents.