missing my husband!!

[wyrpamatz]

I don't know what to do my husband went out of town for work thus is the second time he leaves town for his job. I'm not really used to him being gone l. I've been keeping myself busy so I don't think about him not coming home. he's gonna be gone for 3 days but still I miss him. I just wanted to get it out I guess. But if any of you ladies have gone thru this please feel free to give me some advice b/c this isn't gonna be the last time he'll be leaving town for his job. Thank You

[Kdano]

Hi, new to all this stuff but i'm kind of in the same situation as you are. My fiancé and I live literally across the US from eachother (I finishing college) and the only times I can see him are during school breaks, let alone work 2 jobs and pay bills lol. But my point I guess is that we've been living 3000 miles apart for almost 2 years. We Skype, talk on the phone, send sweet txts to eachother when possible. I look at pictures of us and it always makes me happy. Just rejoice and make the time you spend with him memorable and special. Give him something to think about while he's away. Or honestly tell him you miss him and knowing he misses you might make you feel better. Anyway those are my thoughts. :)

[wyrpamatz]

I have my husbands support to go to college, I also learned that I have a lot of patience with kids b/c of my 2 yr old niece has down syndrome and I'm teaching her how to walk and its really difficult but like you said I'm putting my mind into having her walk. My husband will be home tonight and I'm excited I'm gonna make some really good dinner for him and get all dressed up. Lol it might sound a little childish but I just wanna do that for him.

[Nighthawk61]

I think that it's wonderful that you have such grand aspirations and I wish you the very best that you achieve this goal. I'm sure that you can do this if you put your mind to it!! So nice to have little one's around. I'm so glad that you are not isolating from people, and "love" to be around everyone!! You've got a winning recipe and I'm sure that, given some time, you'll be able to handlie your hubby being gone to work for short periods. I did as well. Don't worry, I'm sure you will too!!

[wyrpamatz]

Well one of my nieces is almost 2, then the other two are 3 & 6. And I want to go to school to be a higH school English teacher. and I meant that I love to move things around. and also be around ppl.

[Nighthawk61]

That's great!!! What are you taking in college? How old is your niece? So do you have a large family? What do you mean by "love things around a lot" Do you mean you love to have people around? Because that sure makes sense, especially for your age.

[wyrpamatz]

Yes I'm gonna start college in January and I babysit my niece but mostly I like to love things around a lot to make things not so boring

[Nighthawk61]

Oh yes, why not check out and see if there's any volunteer work near you. A person receives so much in return, when they are able to help others. Good Luck finding what it is that makes you happy and fulfilled, all by yourself.
Liz xo

[Nighthawk61]

Great advice specialmom!! You're so young and there is so much that you can do when your hubby is out there making a living. You must try to develop your own interests. Who knows what the future will bring? You must learn to live for yourself, and by yourself, in order to be whole.  If you don't enjoy your own company, how can you expect your husband too?  

You're very young with no children. Do you work? Would you like to? Do you need or would you like to take a course of some kind, for hobby or educational purposes. At 19 you probably have your high school diploma, but have you thought about going to college? Even if you are choosing to stay at home, there are many courses that would benefit you. Early childhood education, in case you plan on having children.

Can you join a club so that you are not so alone? What hobbies would you like to learn, knitting? sewing? kick boxing? Do you read? Have you joined the local library? Many have Yoga workshops and more!!!

Have you thought about maybe starting a business at home? Looking after children, or dogsitting/walking?

Think about what contributions that you can make in your life and in this union. The time will fly, and as specialmom mentioned, you will have lots to talk about when he is home.

A few days is not a long time in the scheme of things. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, and please remember, Life is what YOU make it!!! Enjoy. Hugs. Liz.

[wyrpamatz]

Yea that's what I've been doing all day I've been cleaning up and moving stuff around our bedroom and watching the sex and the city marathon LOL. but I'll try to do more things for myself.

[specialmom]

Hi there,

Well, my husband travels a good deal and sometimes on very long trips internationally.  He's done that for a good portion of our marriage of twelve years (dating three on top of that).  

I would say it is all about attitude.  Rather than wallow in the "I miss him" stuff . . . I try to look at it as an opportunity for some ME time.  It's when I get to do as I please, I can have the remote control all to myself, I can eat the thing he's not fond of but I love, I can get to cleaning that closet that I've put off, I can NOT shave my legs for a day, I can read that book that I never get to, etc.  ME time is fantastic.  Learn to love it.  

Maybe beefing up what you have going on as your own interests would be helpful if he is going to be traveling a lot.  I have lots of things I do on my own without my husband.  Couples really shouldn't do 'everything' together because what the heck can they find interesting to talk about for eternity together if they do that?  Right?  We need our own experiences in life to be well rounded partners to one another.  so, that is your time to accumulate cute stories to tell him and he you.  

I also take the attitude that this is what he does to support his family.  And therefore, I must be very supportive of him.  I never complain or act sad.  Nope.  I ask what I can do to help him pack to make it as easy as possible on him.  And when he comes back, I'm waiting with open arms to welcome him.  Afterall, he is sacrificing being at home in order to pay our bills and help finance our life.  

I also . . .  well, hey.  Do you have a dog?  Maybe a pet to care for in all seriousness would help pass the time.  We have a dog . . . well, and now two kids.  If it isn't time for kids, perhaps a dog or cat would make you feel like you are caring for something and not alone at night when he is gone.  
good luck