Afghanistan

[bradleyb80]

So my girlfriend is deployed to Afghanistan and she has half a year left over there.  The first 6 months has gone by fast but the last month and a half has been really bad.  She has been really distant and has been really stressed.  I went a week without talking to her and this morning was the first time we were able to talk.  I knew she had a lot on her mind but I needed to know if she still wanted to be together.  She said that she still loves me but she doesn't know what she wants right now.  She wants two weeks to be apart to think about everything.  I am going through a bunch of different emotions right now from being pissed at her getting deployed and being really sad because she means so much to me.  I don't know if she does want to get back together if we should because I don't want to have to do this again.  Does anyone have any suggestions or words of wisdom to make me feel better?  I am just lost

[specialmom]

It is really hard to keep things together when there is so much distance and worlds apart. Your every day life is so different than hers right now.  I think that I'd try to be empathetic to what it must be like for her.  When she gets back, give her her space and then after the two weeks, see where she is at.  

Try not to be mad.  I'm sure you are more hurt than mad.  I think in situations of high stress like that, you bond with who you are with.  You feel distance emotionally from those at home.  I've seen this happen even with people that go away for extended job training.  But once they are back in their normal enviroment, life goes back to the way it was----------- usually.  So, wait to see if that happens.  Good luck