what should i do?

[mandy8]

I have posted forums before. If you don't know i am 18 dating a guy whos 22 with a 3 year old austic son from his ex girlfriend. Back in june he cheated on me with his ex girlfriend the mom of the baby. He felt bad and showed it he was amazing and did anything he could so i did take him back. For 4 months we have been happpy well yesterday it all changed. Yesterday moring he texted me and told me hes going to his aunts house to fix her waterpipes with his dd so i said ok well then at 11 my cousin texted me and said i just saw your boyfriend. Yesterday there was a austim walk and she was walking it. So my boyfriend was really there and not at his aunts and he was with the baby and his ex girlfriend. I flippped out on him and told him its over he thinks he did nothing wrong he said he lied to me to protect me. If he was just going to the austism walk then why didn't he ask me? If there is no feelings for them two then why couldn't he ask me to come? Its the point that he lied to me not so much that he was there. What do i do?

[mami1323]

Everyone is scared to move on, heck I am dealing with that right now.  My fiance cheated on me and we share a child.  I'm choosing to stick it out but it's a difficult choice as well.  Relationships are not easy but the one thing you have going for you is your youth.  You have plenty of time to meet a better man.  Guarantee once you do, you will look back and laugh.  You will say what was I thinking.  I wish you luck, ending a relationship is never easy but you have to think about what is best for you.  

[mandy8]

thank you for your advice, even if we do break up his ex gf has a new bf and they live toghter so they won't ever get back toghter. I always ask him if he has feelings for her and he gets mad when i bring it up he always says no he loves me but it is hard to believe that. I just keep looking back when we first met and all the good memories we had its hard to let go. I don't think i will find another guy who will treat me right like he did when we were happy not counting the lying and cheating. All i been doing is crying im scared to move on.

[mami1323]

Mande in all honesty, you have no connection to this guy.  You have no children, no real reason to stay.  He obviously still has some feelings for his ex and maybe it's best that they remain close for the sake of their special needs child.  Regardless, she will be in his life forever.  I don't think this situation is going to be good for you.  You are 18 and have a whole lot of life to live, you don't need to be caught up in a mess like this.  I hope you do make a decision to move forward to someone who doesn't have so much else going on.

[jo929]

You are to young to be in a relationship with a 22 yera old dad, as he had this child at a young age, and has not had a chance to taste life so to speak, and he will only cheat on you, again and again and i do feel for the child, you are young find someone else and  move on  luck  jo

[AHP84]

I really don't think you should stay involved in this relationship. Here are the reasons I think you should break up:

-I've read your past posts, and quite frankly, I think this guy is a leech at the age of 22.

-He's lied to you and cheated on you, and now he's lied to you again (even if he wasn't having an "affair" with the mother of his child at the autism walk, why would he lie to you about going? Even if he didn't want you there, there really was no reason to lie about being there...definitely sounds like he's trying to hide something).

-Quite honestly, I think it is best that he stay involved with the mother of his child with special needs.

-You are young and have plenty more opportunities to find a good man with whom to build a wonderful relationship.

[mayflowers]

It sounds like he can't make a choice between you and the ex.  He wants both in the picture. That's selfish and at the very least,  indecisive.  Then there is the fact that he's lied.  There were probably other times he lied but you just didn't catch him.

You are 18, have your whole life ahead of you.  Find someone who isn't indecisive.  Find someone who doesn't have baggage too.  Find a single guy with no kids who will concentrate on you.

Good luck.