Aa
why??
Why do people save things from their exs?? I don't get it. Once it's over, I like to get rid of it all. delete photos, get rid of gifts, delete virtual gifts(like from facebook), and all of that. Yet my ex saves it all. It bugs me..
haha. oh, he is VERY frustrating. thanks! I've been ignoring him, and it's been better. :)
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Well, that is understandable. Ex's can be frustrating----- hence, they are an EX. I think you are doing the right thing by not being facebook friends and you never know what his motives are. Maybe he is trying to bug you. So just don't look, enjoy your new relationship and be as happy as you can be. good luck
I know he has them because he had said he wanted to be "friends" afterward, so I said I'd try later on, after I had some time for me. Well I tried for a while and got angered at how he talked to me and would talk about all these other girls, so I deleted him off of my facebook. I didn't want to see him. He tried adding me a few months later, so I tried again. He still had the pictures and everything up, yet he had a new gf ! I had him on there for a few weeks, but felt awkward talking with him since he'd bring up her a lot, so deleted him again. I won't add again. And I have a relationship now that I'm in, but still from time to time am still angry at my ex.
It is simply a fond memory of a fond time, before it went sour. No more and no less. We did have a life before we met our significant other and for someone to expect us to pretend otherwise is absurd. For example. I was married before and had children with that person. I have pics of wedding, good times, family times. My current husband new that about me before marrying me. It does not erase my past and I refuse to act like it did. If those things bother him then he does not belong with me, I refuse to have it any other way.
Until my current relationship I used to keep everything. It was fun looking back and seeing how young I looked or just remembering that part of my life. But my fiancé didn't like my pictures so we both decided to get rid of all of our pics of old flames. He only had a few pics of exes but he had no problem getting rid of them. My ex had a photo album with his exes and it would bother me to see it because I really didn't like seeing him hugging and kissing on a woman that wasn't me.
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Ah, sweetpea, your last comment sheds more light on your question. Some people keep things as just part of their history and they are pretty meaningless. My husband would be an example of that. We were recently cleaning out some old boxes and he stumbled upon a box of such things and he pitched it. (not after a good laugh at some of the hairdos-------- seems hubby had a thing for ladies with BIG hair!) Some people keep them because they are special and good memories. Everyone is different.
But your question speaks more to some hurt and anger you have going on. Why your ex chooses to keep those things is kind of irrelavent and your goal is to get to a point in which you don't care. (and how do you know he has them????) So, try not to worry about him and what he is doing and focas on yourself. Do some things to distract yourself, get busy and pursue what you enjoy, include some exercise (it always helps) and forget about him. good luck
But your question speaks more to some hurt and anger you have going on. Why your ex chooses to keep those things is kind of irrelavent and your goal is to get to a point in which you don't care. (and how do you know he has them????) So, try not to worry about him and what he is doing and focas on yourself. Do some things to distract yourself, get busy and pursue what you enjoy, include some exercise (it always helps) and forget about him. good luck
haha, I like the bonfire idea. Wish my ex would do that. I don't get that my ex broke up with me and saves everything I had given him. He still has the pictures of us, and pictures of me. I want him to get rid of them. I had asked him before why he still had them, and he just says he likes them. For me, I don't like keeping a connection to the past. I'd get rid of it all, and start fresh. feels better that way. and it's easier for the new person in your life. less complicated.
They are a memory of the past and it all depends if it was a good or negative experience. I've kept photos and dumped gifts that brought sad memories. It's depends on the experience.
I save things from my exs... especially, items relating the previous boyfriend that I had, who died 3 and a half years ago. These items keep the memory of that person alive. My current boyfriend is understanding of the sentimental attachment... but, he admits to being a bit jealous of it as well.
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