I’m a 34 year old male. I had an unprotected oral sex with another man (I gave him a BJ, he didn’t) about 48 hours ago. My last test was 1 month ago and everything was negative. I NEVER had any STI whatsoever in the past. I haven’t had any sex since I last tested a month ago. I have not experienced any symptoms following the oral sex. In total, the BJ lasted about 5-10 mins at most. He didn’t *** nor did I. I’m not too sure about precum, nor of his STD/HIV status (he seemed healthy and there were no apparent sores/rash). We also fooled around (kissing, rubbing genitals, humping etc).
Last Thursday, I had dental scaling to treat bleeding gums. After the procedure, my gums stopped bleeding for the first time in a long time. I also have a cavity in one of my teeth. The dentist prescribed a mouth wash after the procedure, which I suspect has given me a mild sore throat. My throat was mildly soar while giving the BJ.
From what I read online, I got the impression that I must have had contracted some STI given the circumstances (being gay in a homophobic environment, unknown status of partner, unprotected oral, mild soar throat…etc). But it seems you have a different opinion on how risky oral sex is.
Unfortunately, I’m in a very homophobic country right now and it’s incredibly risky to get tested or seek treatment. Should I travel overseas, even though it would be an enormous burden financially and otherwise? If I develop symptoms down the road, should I self medicate and take antibiotics, or should I just go ahead and take them now preemptively? Is there any other way to get tested for STI’s without raising suspicions about being gay (e.g., getting a full physical exam instead of specifically testing for STI’s)?
Thank you very much in advance.